Just say "sex"!

[Chu]

One of my biggest problems with the parents that I know is that they're afraid of their kids learning about sex, but don't bother to shelter them from topics like drugs or violence.

My little brother and sister were mindlessly naming off various drugs one day and I was trying to mind my own business, but eventually I had to tell them to drop the subject or at least leave the room for my sanity. Then my sister said "sperm" and my brother went off on her. "WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY?! Where did you learn that?"

What?

What's wrong with sex? DX This type of thing drives me insane; my mom always tried to keep me ten feet away from the subject and now I see that she's rubbed off on my brother. Joy.

[Paris]

Sex is still very taboo for many families, I know my father would never want to hear my sister and sex in the same sentence. I don't think sex can be mentioned around my family without everyone giving that "look", like the Manhattan bridge just came down or something.

I don't care, sex is sex and really, what is wrong with it? We all do it at some point, not saying we should get vulgar with it but if someone mentioned sex in front of me I'm not going to go ballistic.

[Chu]

Haha, my family has the same reaction come to think of it. XD

Oh definitely. There's nothing more annoying than a pervert that can't hear anything without making it an innuendo. n_n Oh god have I dealt with too many of those.


I forget where I heard this before: a movie with a sex scene is rated "R" but one with murder/violence is rated "PG-13". Sex is procreation. Murder is... murder. I know endorsing it wouldn't send the best message either but that's basically saying that killing someone is OKAY! But conceiving a child isn't. >.>;

Though we all now that the vast majority of people that have sex aren't looking to have a kid, so that's not the best point. XD It does give you something to think about though.

[Freshie]

My mother taught me about sex, drugs (er, rock and roll..?), and everything else in the world..when I was 6 years old. Yup. My mother wanted me to be prepared since she didnt get enough education back in the day. (I have older parents then most people my age)

[Chu]

Good mother. :]

All my mom really taught me was: "Men are bad, don't go near them." And that wasn't even because of sex, but because she was screwed over time and time again. DX

[Paris]

Count your blessings, Chu. My parents just told me "Touching other people is bad" and that was about it. I wouldn't call our parents bad, not sure it's easy for them and they grew when when sex education classes wasn't as rampant as they are in today's world.

I think us as parents would fare better, I say this when I know I'll have so much trouble with my future daughter or son. Watch me tell you this now and when the time comes I'll utter '"Touching other people is bad".

[Freshie]

My mother has been like that too. :/
I'm her only offspring, so she has been trying so hard to give me a great childhood and life. ^^;;

But yeah, even though I've learned so much at such a young age, I never even kissed a boy till I was like 18. xD

[Chu]

@Paris: Oh I didn't mean that parents that stray away from the subject are bad. XD The "good mother" thing was more praise rather than judgement.

I'm a really blunt person though. ._. I know that when my kids in the future ask I'll be as blunt as I was with my brother and sister.


@Freshie: I'm my mom's first born, and more than anything, she practically tries to live the life she missed out on through me. With the cheerleading, spoiling, urging me to go to the prom and get class rings and yearbooks...

But I'm okay I guess. I mean, I did lose my virginity at sixteen (I feel weird saying that because I'm seventeen o-0) but I think I made my choices fairly well.

[Freshie]

Yeah, I've been a spoiled only child. Then again, I grew up in Florida with Disney World and other stuff in my backyard. x3
She never really urged me to do stuff I guess, she was a single mother so she had more important things to focus on. But really she raised me to believe whatever you want, love whoever you want, etc.

I didnt lose it till this past year (age 19). x3
I waited till I found a good boyfriend..and we're still together, woot! :3
But I got offers for sex throughout high school. Like I was some off track, side trophy to be won. ;-; "Yeah, I had sex with the weird girl!" But yeah, I focused more on school then boys.
However when I did tell my parents (step-mother and dad) that I finally am sexually active they're like "Oh..? We thought you were already." GAWD. D: Way to go there. When I was living with you guys, I spent 98% percent at home, usually alone unless with my female friends. And if I were out, I was hanging out with female friends. ;-;
Seriously. I was on the computer most of the time being a loser. D:
(Even though I'm bi, I have yet to get way intimate with a girl, but I've been with them before being with a guy)

Edit: Also my step-mother and father are religious so it seems like they didnt have much hope for this generation obeying the "wait till marriage" thing. With times changing and all.

They may be the thing that prevents parents to being parents on the subject, that we've become such a focused nation on religion, that sex being taboo has to enter the household too
Me? I'm like with Apatheism.

[Paris]

[Chu]

Haha, I was spoiled even though we're poor as dirt. I don't know how she did it because she's a single parent too, but I appreciate everything she's done for me.

I've never cared about sex, honestly. I always knew that I'd never make it until marriage and never felt bad about thinking that way. Even though the subject was taboo with my family and I knew that if they found out, I'd be disowned, I don't care because I firmly believe that we're meant to begin having sex as soon as we begin craving it. People see it as a commitment or some embodiment of love but I call bull shit: it's for making babies and feeling good. (This opinion causes a lot of arguments between myself and my female friends: "My boyfriend and I made love for the first time!" "Didn't you already have sex?" "Yeah, but we made LOVE." "Pssssh. Making love is as much fucking as fucking is." And then she'd be mad at me for a few days for not respecting her relationship, apparently. :D)

But this is coming from someone who had her first EVERYTHING (promise) with one guy.

>_> Even though my fear of men, and treatment of them as a result of said fear, had just about everything to do with it. If it weren't for paralyzing fears I'd probably be easy. It's sad, but true. But at least I'm willing to admit it.


@Paris: XD Well I wouldn't be that blunt with them. If they were too young (>6 or 8) I'd just give them vague "it makes babies" explanation, and later on (13 or so I guess) I'd bring it up and offer birth control if it were a girl, condoms if it were a guy. However I'd explain that the precautions do fail, and that it drastically changes relationships sometimes so if they value the relationship, they sure as hell better be mature enough to handle it. Being in high school, I've seen plenty of relationships fail after the couple had sex because they weren't prepared for a mature relationship.

[Freshie]

I never had many male friends till my little stay at college.
And even in the beginning being sexual this year, I was too afraid to go near the naked male body let alone see it. Like I didnt know how it worked. ;-;
(Even though I did, I'm just scared of the unknown sometimes)

I'd be the same way too, about how sex is natural to be wanting and how making love isn't different. I'd rather be faithful while in a relationship, however, with the lack of experiences being in a relationship..it can make me be stupid at times. ;-;

edit:
I also hate it when people who offer birth control to younger teen girls, people get upset. Maybe, they're not promoting sexual stuff and maybe the girls just want lighter periods. Goodness, its hard enough on them since their bodies are changing. :/

[Chu]

I love the male body. The first time I saw a penis I said "woah" for two reasons: it was bigger than expected, and waaaaay better looking than I expected. ._. Everyone acted like it was hideous but I think the vagina is uglier. In fact, even though female bodies are curvier, I think the male body is more beautiful because it's more proportionate.

Another point! People shouldn't overreact to naked bodies. I mean, if you're going to shy away from the subject of sex then at least accept the human body as something that's beautiful.

Yeah, what kept me from having sex for the year that Raz and I were together before it was the fact that I was so inexperienced. He warned me that the last girlfriend he had sex with wasn't ready even though she thought she was, and it was one of the things that ended the relationship, so that really made me think about it. (He had 5 before me. >_> Lost it at 12, haha.) However in the end we turned out fine, and it actually improved our relationship. Beforehand there was some tension.

Oh god, I know what you mean. I've asked my mom about it even before I was dating Raz because my periods are TERRIBLE, but no. I couldn't have it because it would make me want to have sex. >_> Honestly? That's really stupid to me. Now I suffer and miss two days of school a month because they're so bad.

[Freshie]

For me, it took a while to even poke it. D:
xD
i'm werid like that.

But yes, I love the human body..just not used to seeing naked bodies in person..thats all. ^^;;
Then again I'm self conscious and worry how I look in my bikini at the beach or even by the pool. ;-;

I've only have had sex with my boyfriend, and hes had sex with two other girls before me. And then the most recent ex tried to get him back by saying she was pregnant. :O Which she was but it was sometime after we started dating. Enough time for her to get pregnant by someone else. Then again I never met her or her family. Brent says they're crazy so we stay away from them.

I tough it out on my periods. <<;;

[Kattie]

I don't get it. Sex is a natural part of life. I'm not that comfortable talking about it, but I do every now and then. Hm, I guess people still have it coded in their minds that sex is something sinful.