Just WHAT the heck is wrong with me? Can't I have a say?

[IndigoButerfly]

@Catghost: I didn't attack her. It was a question. Notice the question marks. I didn't claim she hates them like that, I just took the stereotypical attitude of most religious people. The hateful part about gays was an exaggeration so it would be easier to get my point across.
And you'd be surprised how Christians can get hateful, despite the fact they believe in Jesus who is teaching them to love. I should know... won't go out of topic though.

[Bound]

Well~ This post's generated a lot of discussion.

For my part, I agree with Indigo's first post: what you hate in others is what you hate in yourself. What you hate in yourself is what you think others hate about you.

I had a lot of experience of this during high school. For instance, I really hated this one person who was loud, outgoing, confident, could have a conversation with anyone at all on any topic, was popular with many friends... basically, the complete opposite of what I perceived myself to be. And I hated this person for an embarrassingly long time before I realised that, in effect, I was jealous of them.

I was jealous of their ability to express themself in any way they wanted, while I could barely speak up in class when I was called on to answer a question, even if I knew the right answer. Realising this, I was able to stop hating them.

That's not to say I'm now perfect or anything. I still dislike people who are very loud for prolonged periods of time, because it's annoying (and I think many people would agree). I still don't tend to get along with "popular" people at my university, because we tend to have very few interests in common. But I don't have to hate them any more. And I think that learning not to hate them might have helped me like myself more, too.

I also find that I dislike people (and this extends to fictional characters, like in books, anime or TV) who exhibit personality traits similar to those that I consider my "weaknesses" that I should get rid of. It's harder for me to get over my dislike for these, because that would mean fully accepting myself, and I can't do that right now but... I resolved to not let my dislike for these aspects of their characters cloud my perception of their "positive" attributes, things that I find admirable about them.

So, I guess what I'm trying to say is: if you see something negative in someone, question why it is that you think that it's negative. And try not to let the negatives obscure the positives that could be just below the surface. :)

[Catghost]

[Afanassii]

[OMG MY FACE]

Just to put in two more cents and jump back a page, discrimination is a form of hate. Just so you know. Thanks.

(Oh and to touch on the Jesus thing, Jesus would neither hate NOR discriminate. If Jesus came back tomorrow, he would not stand out in West Hollywood and yell at homosexuals, call them faggots, and condemn them to hell. He would love them just like he loves everybody else.)

[Graymalkin]

I would have to agree one hudred percent with OMG MY FACE.
Jesus would definately not do that, [ I am not Christian by the way ]
I do not understand what prompts people to do that anyways.
Oh wait yes I do, it is because the people who so claim to 'praise'
the Lord and give his divine teachings...
They themselves say that homosexuality is wrong,
as well as religions other than their own is wrong.
ALMOST EVERY ONE OF THEM says that other religions is wrong.
God and Jesus would love everyone.

You yourself are hating by being discriminating.
Do you overly state in school and other places,
your feelings on this?
You probably have none of the other friends because perhaps,
they themselves are bisexual or homosexual.
Or they are just more open minded than you.
I cannot speak for all people of religion,
seeing as I know people who are Catholic or Christian,
yet are not OH MY G** If you don't do this you'll burn in hell.
Or whatever, they are open minded towards homosexuality,
other races as well as other beliefs.
As it should be, I do not think any one person should be excluded for...
say style, height [ which I have not heard of ],
body type, body features, language, heritage,
beliefs, their dislikes, or their likes or anything that makes them them.
A person should be just that, a person.
Not everything else that makes them themselves.
You should first see them as a human, no matter their colour, or sexuality.

I am rambling on now so I shall excuse myself.
Although I stand firm in my belief that homosexuality is not wrong.
I myself and a bisexual, so.. whatever.
You can feel the way you feel but do not not be friends with someone because they are.
If you are hurt for being disliked because of what you like, look like, don't like.
Think of what you are doing to others.

[Vidd187]

[Graymalkin]

I agree with Vidd on that point. I love small people, and I do have this.. favouritsm to asian people. Most of my friends are asian actually. Heh. Forgot to put this in my other post, so well.. here it is. Probably will stay un-read.

[Howler Monkey]

You're making judgments against gay/bi/and lesbian people based off of a characteristic. Most of them are nicer than most everyone else. r

[Iregyura]

I think that there's nothing wrong with you. You can't really help your characteristics, anyways. I mean, I have Christian Asian friends that can't even speak Chinese (though they are Chinese). So what? Some people are just like that. Plus, I think that people thinking "weird" is good. NO. I didn't mean like that's good. I meant that it's better than having fake friends, who pretend to like you. Also, NEVER think about having a fake personality, because that gets really annoying over time, and it's just not natural. I think that there's always somewhere where someone's extremely weird (for me, it's anime and manga) so no one's exactly "normal". So don't feel bad. There's probably tons of other people just like you. Maybe you can also make friends with your real friends' friends. I hope that this will help you, and you can always interrupt for your right time of your opinion! Remember, opinions are really important! Keep in mind though (this is kind of random in order; sorry) even if some people are gay or something, that doesn't make them a bad person. But I guess people have their own beliefs, after all.
Plus, if people don't like short Asians, they won't like me either
Edit:
One last thing: Remember that you can judge people, but they can judge you as well!

[Nova]

The ugly truth is that people don't judge people based on those characteristics you describe.
You can't despise someone because they're short, or not want to hang out with them because you're asian or catholic.

Maybe you have a negative or un-inviting body-language or way of formulating yourself?

Although I disagree with your 'hatred' of gay/bi/les people, I don't mind people being against it as long as they don't bitch about it all the time.

You can disagree with someone without hating them.

If a lot of people don't like you, maybe you should try to objectively evaluate your behavior and see if there's anything you could work on improving.
When a person assumes that others around them doesn't like them, their body-language and tone of voice changes, often without the person itself noticing.

Nobody wants to hang out with a grouch who hates stuff, people want to be with people who make them happy and accepts them.

In other words, and in the best hippie-fashion: Are you sure you're giving out positive vibes? Negative vibes are a drag, and makes people pull away from you. Work actively on trying to spread out more positive than negative vibes, and you might see yourself feeling better about yourself as well as other people.

Edit: Also, if there are a lot of things you don't like about people, and you act on that in a way that shows it clearly, people might come to see you as hypocritical and closed-minded, and therefore not feel like they can be comfortable or themselves around you.

[Rice_Bunni]

I just wanna say: HARSH!!
dont let it get you down! idk what im suppose to say but i once read this book and a character committed suicide because her problems kept building up. Dont let it build up! let it go. i have like 3 friends and that's all i really need.

why be the same as everyone if you can be different? and i'm also asian and my school has a very small amount of asians, but it doesn't bother me...much.

<3

[Chu]

[Athilea Majiri]

I don't agree with judging people by how they look, that being said your opinion and beliefs are going to get you judged, and sometimes harshly.

By the logic you are trying to present here I should not judge someone for molesting a child because it's a character flaw of theirs. Or I shouldn't judge someone for trying to force their religion onto me, and for saying that some of my friends sexual preferences aren't right because of the word of a supposed god.

I'm sorry, I'm Athiest and my Mother-in-Law is a lesbian. I'm bi-sexual, though I don't reveal that often as I am in a happy marriage with my husband and have a beautiful son. I don't act on it.

So, how would you judge me based on that? You wouldn't like thinks about me because I don't believe what you do.

Again, that being said you should not be judged on physical characteristics, and pride in your heritage. That is not right.

[[~SHWING~]]

Isn't being against other people choice of sexuality judgement(?), if I'm wrong my apologies.

But that aside, nothing about you seems unlike-able, you have conviction in your faith and are proud of who you are it sounds like . Those are good qualities, and as for hight tall people lose more brain cells they hit their heads more often.

Its human nature to judge though it is the basic animal instinct that has enabled our survival, that and agruculture, so judging people is a way to gadge interactions maybe your don't come off as who you are.