True Friends? or just another suck up...

[Quatre Vingt Quatre]

I don't really think that there are false friends, just people that aren't as "high up" on the friendship scale as others. I pretty much figure there are Best Friends, Close Friends, Friends, Acquaintances, and then strangers, excluding all family or romantic relations. They may not just fit the "best friend" role as well as you would like.

I know that I have only two "best friends", but several close friends. Those are the ones that I feel close to, but not so closely as "best friends" and they sometimes don't feel like listening.

Maybe those friends you were talking about are just "close" and not "best"?

And besides, like Chu said, no one can be a good friend all the time. As much as I try, sometimes I can be insensitive without meaning to. Everyone does that occasionally.

[Funkystar13]

well weve been 'best friends' for 6 years so i figuered thats what we were, im talking to them now but we never hang out anymore i only see them i class.

[Vixie]

you can always tell who your true friends are apart from your "i'm your friend but i don't want to do much for you" friends! a true friend will help you out no matter what the situation or cost.

[Mungo Boo]

My friends tend to ditch me too. -sigh- I think that a friend should always do what's best for you.. like if you got a job, they would congratuate you and encourage you and not tell you to skip it just to be with them. (or other selfish reasons)

[Iregyura]

Um, I think that "true friends" don't really care about your appearance, and if you have a disorder, they accepted you the way you are. They don't care if you have strange habits or not, and they stick up to you when you are being bullied or feeling down. They have their own opinions, though, and they don't agree to everything you say. If they do, then there probably a suck-up. Also, true friends don't care how you look like when you're crying and stuff, and they make you unafraid to express your emotions.
Also, when you mentioned that your friends go off a lot without you, maybe it's just not their way of having a "friendship". I read a story where two best-friends moved and one kept sending emails to her friend but her friend doesn't send any back. I guess it's just their "style". Some people just aren't used to do so. Maybe your friends actually care about you, but it's in their own way, not the way you think. However, if this already continuously happened, you should talk to them. Maybe they'll be more willing to be more of your liking. But if this keeps happening, I don't think that they're "true friends".

[JLtd]

Friends should accept your values, accept you for who you are. Both parties should try to change their own ways, or understand to please the other; otherwise it would never work out.
I can't tolerate illiteracy or chatspeak. If people continue to message me using it, I know they're not loyal.
If people don't understand my depression, I know they're not loyal.

Yet they should ALWAYS stick up for you in a fight. A good example of this is at MWC. My Warrior Cats. It's an adoptable site and forum, run by an EXTREMELY immature fourteen year old.
I know you might be on there, but I implore you; please, don't.. ;~;
Emma, the Admin, banned me. I have moments of pure grief, and in these times I often try to kill myself.
I was upset one day, after a baby's funeral. I went to MWC. I snapped, and started crying. I went out of control - I didn't realise what I was doing. I apparently asked Emma to quit. She banned me. She didn't believe I had depression. She thought I was being unfaithful.
So, after a lot of reasoning from my actual friends on the site, she let me back. We were all good. Then, all of a sudden, she was called to the SB (by someone I hate) because we were DICUSSING Chicken Smoothie. Never ONCE did we say the words: "Go to Chicken Smoothie - it's a great site!". It was a discussion, about what we received from the advent calendar.
She leapt at MY throat, even though several others were deep in the conversation. NOBODY stood up for me. Then, finally, a user called Spottyshan did. She told Emma the definition of advertising - which WASN'T IN THE RULES. She turned on Spotty, and I told Emma to back off. She banhammered me. To oblivion and beyond.
Yet what I find so funny was the emptiness of it all. All that time. She never cared. I drew art for her. I was her loyal and official artist on the site. She told me that mine was the best on the site. She confided in confidential matters with me. ONLY me. Nobody else knew. And she didn't believe I had depression. Thought I'd willingly throw it all away. That's bullcrap.
It was an honest mistake. Then, after I left, she told EVERYONE that I confessed in an email that I didn't have depression.

Then she denies all of it, and she's the angel again, all of a sudden. But she's FAR from an angel. She beat up a kid with cancer. That's what she gloated about in the SB.
Next thing I know, she uses my art. If you see, in the artist's thread, I posted art of a few kitten bases. The "new art" that Emma "created" is almost the EXACT same pose as my own. It's almost theft. Then she sends her little minions to come and attack me on my deviantArt, sending me hate mail, so I'm forced to make abusive journals.
I'm sick of it, and her. I wish people would stop signing up.
I hope you realise that Emma is an excuse of a person. A cruel, heartless excuse.
She hurt me in more ways than anyone can imagine.

Before this, Emma was my BEST online friend. This is just one of MANY examples of how people can hurt others.

Also, you never know when people are who they say they are.

In real life? I see through people the moment I meet them. My little sister once had this friend; she was a TC. (Too Cool) Like a popular.
She was SO materialistic, and Liz, my sister, loved her for her fashion. She put on this "caring" mask. Yet to me, she was like a demon. She called me really awful things, and drove me away. I was mistreated and verbally abused by them both when I was assigned to take them to the shops and look after them.
Turns out she has a boyfriend, once beat up a four-year-old, and is the biggest you-know-what ever. >.> *sigh*

And that's not the least of it. I think it's extremely difficult to determine true friends from those who just want to use you.

[Julia]

Honestly, I don't quite know what a true friend should be like. I have always thought I have the best friend as we were always together right from our birth because our parents were friends too. I can remember that I was selfish to this person, that I tried to find new people and started socialising with them more than with her and so on. I can't remember her being selfish or something...but...that's a long story actually but to tell it short we didn't have similar interests. She liked what I liked and so on. My opinion was her opinion but she tried to deny it when other people asked her. I don't behave like a leader in many situations, although in some I love to do it. But I'm not very brave. Maybe that means she is even less brave than I am if she tried to imitate everything? I honestly don't know. Ok, doesn't matter. She always tried to support me I guess and visited me in hospital and such. But she didn't understand me at all. For a year I was so ill I wasn't able to go out of the house. I didn't want to see people because of that. She called me a lot, so much calls and useless words that every person is ill and said that I'm so stupid that I still take pills. She couldn't get that I'd die without them, I still take them but at least I live. We don't socialise much now because there is no initiative from me. I had a chance to know what is love but I doubt that I know what is true friendship. I think a friend should be someone who understands. Of course support, attention and so on are important but without understanding it's nothing to my mind. I may be wrong.

[Connan]

The meaning of true friendschip, by Connan XD

No really I understand your first post. I believe there are sertain people in your life.

Friends
Real friends
Fakes.
Non-people XD


Lets start with.. Fakes!
I call people Fakes when:
they pretend they are freinds, you hang out with them and it's fun! But Thats it... o.o you cant tell them how you feel... or if your parents treated you like shit again. Or other problems at home or school. They just hang out with you because they can o.o nothing more, they don't think of you as a friend, just someone to hang out with....

Then you have Friends:
Friends are the poeple you talk with. hang out with on school, sprots club, outside school. They understand you and are willing to do something for you when your in trouble. These people wont leave you standing out side in the cold =^^=

Than you have True friends:
These people are the people you can be really happy with. if something is wrong with you, they know instead of you telling them that there is something wrong. These people know you, and you know them. no matter what happens, they can always come to you to talk, and virsa virsa.

Oh don't forget the non-people -.-
They are the poeple who think they are better than anyone else. the people like, '''you don't wear that shirt? your out of the club'' type of people. they dont care about you, only about them selves ...O.o


What to do if you think something isnt going the way it should with friendschip?

I know this is hard, or wierd! But TALK TO EACHOTHER!!
It can be awkward .. o.o but that isnt the thing XD

It could well be that the person doenst realise he/she is not spending as much time with you as with some one else... Talk about it =^^=

If you don't know what is wrong, or whats bothering people to your behavior. then you can't do anything about it can you?

For instance it could well be you had a bad day and said a few thing to a friend which hurt a bit. If you dont know it hurt that person, you can apologise right?

[elliryanna55]

true friendship (I believe) is when you feel like you can talk to them at any time anywhere about anything even if it will hurt them and you should know they will do the same and if you are true friends then youll know them for a LONG time like my dad and his best friend theyve known each other since they were kids and he is 42 now