SO lets look at what happened to me?

[Aaya-Tan]

Ah, I have to agree with the above post.

If you can't accept yourself, you won't be accepted by others. People are social animals by nature, and like animals, they can, well, practically smell a lack of confidence. It's why bullies pick on the little nerds in school.

It's why cheerleaders (The mean ones) pick on the girls that can't join the squad, or the jocks to the mascot, you know? If you keep beating yourself up and the 'woe is me' routine, you're not going to find your one and only.

People don't like others who put themselves down so much all the time. It's a huge turn off and, frankly, people find it very very unattractive. Try looking in a mirror and finding good qualities about yourself.

Such as your skill with tattoo design. You've got talent there. You're also the moderator of a great community, and you're good at what you do. You're fair, even if you're usually putting yourself down for some reason or another.

I don't mean to sound like a bitch, if I do, I'm really sorry, it's just that when people say 'My existance bothers me' or 'Everyone hates me' or 'everyone should hate me', it just. Well, it makes me want to slap them in the back of the head. Because the fact you say that online means that you're wanting attention generally.

I don't want to say you're an attention whore, or you're just crying out for pity or something.. I can understand you want to let others know what happened, and how you feel, but there's a limit to what you should say and what you should do. I mean, posting in threads to just degrade yourself can really be a put off. And if you do it online, I'm going to bet that, most likely, you do it in person, too. That's not something a girl wants.

Girls might want someone to take care of, but, like was said before, only for so long will they put up with the childish act. Once you're fixed, they move onto the next project. The tormented soul routine went out a long time ago, not a lot of girls want it. Thanks to the media, girls are really materialistic now, but there are a lot of girls that still want someone to care about.

Though most of the time, girls just want to know they're cared about. And not by saying how horrible and blah de blah you feel when they're gone. They like being treated with a bit of romance, but not smothered all the time. Girls enjoy someone who has confidence, because if their special person has confidence, they have a bit more confidence themselves.

"Wow, my guy really appreciates me, and he really appreciates himself."

That's what girls want to think. That's what girls want to say. They feel like if their significant other is confident in what he says or does, that he's honest to himself and to them when they compliment them, or do something special, or anything.

Bumbling and bashful works for only so long, too.. I don't know, I'm just speaking in a generalization for women that seem to have similar interests or problems that you seem to be having, personal tastes / experiences, and what have you.

Hope I don't come off as a prick but. If you don't stop beating yourself up, you're not going to get other people to stop either. :<

[Antheia]

Alright hun, I don't know you, never even talked to ya, but I've talked to your Solian friend, I don't remember her name on there though, and she only said good things, all I've ever heard is good things.
She's a bitch if she really gave her phone to that prick so he could be an asshole towards you.
He needs to stop being so clingy towards her, and I found it offensive how he was talking about her as if she were just there so he could have something to hump.
You treated her with respect from what I know, and he probably treats her like crap.
She's dumb if she's choosing him over you, and if she just out of no where got a new boyfriend.
Some girls like to be treated like crap in a way, some girls don't like being treated like royalty, I don't get it either, but it's just life I guess. Life doesn't have to explain itself.
I still can't get over how that prick was talking about her like that. If someone were to talk about me like that, like I was just a piece of meat and that's all I'd ever be, I'd probably punch them, and tell them to go find someone who will actually put up with that shit.
But that's just me. :D

[Transcendence]

Some times it is hard to turn the other cheek, but if you give up on the world now you will never have a chance of happiness. Trust me its out there. Just be patient. Sometimes you have to take what comes at you and you will understand it will only make you stronger. Life ISNT easy. Take it from me.

So this girl wasnt the one? Dont listen to what the bitch boyfriend said. HE doesnt know his dick from his finger nail. He said those things to make himself feel better because he is insecure about himself. In the end the good people come ahead. You will find a girl who loves you for who you are. She is out there and she is waiting for you, like you are waiting for her.

[Embla]

Heh, Well I'm sure all the dozens of other girls have helped talk you into a tizzy about how to handle the situation. So I'll just say my piece

I am NOT you , so I dunno if this relates to you or not. But from what I've read I Would have to say that you don't have much respect for yourself (yes yes, I've seen other girls have said that, yadda yah) . I used to not think very well of myself, and I experienced my own heartbreak but one day I looked in the mirror and said "I am F***ing sick of letting my emotions trample my days". I'm a very emotionally in tune person, when my friends where sad.. even if it had nothing to do with me I would feel ;/ sick almost.. if that makes sense. So I finally decided to analyze myself, I may not be the most beautiful girl but I help make people smile. Noticing small traits in yourself that stand out are reason enough to appreciate yourself. Now I won't let anyone talk down at me, they do not know me or what I am truly capable of. And when I see my friends downing themselves I say what I'm about to say to you...

"I won't let you say those things about Hiroku anymore >8(!!!!!"

Needless to say emotion wise, I stopped focusing on the small things and applying logic where I could. In your instance I would of course be pissed,but when you think about if.. say she DID call you back and you started dating. When was she planning on tell you about this GUY?

[Graymalkin]

Wow women like that drive me crazy.
I know what you mean for the hopeless feeling,
of the whole being alone for a long period of time.
That should make you stronger.
People are assholes, and that guy was a royal asshat.
I hope he gets hit by a fucking semi-truck.
Sorry for the profanity but still, I hate people when they treat others like that.
I was presumably cheated on in my last relationship.
Not positive but everyone but me seems to think he did not.
Oh well, women are bitches, you just need the right bitch.
Sorry I am not a lot of help.
Just pick yourself up, dust off your breeches and go on.

[Vidd187]

[Iregyura]

Gosh, that lady needs a life. Or at least learn to not deal with problems like that. Or having someone else get a hold of her phone. That's just stupid. She was dating you, and then when you text her, like normal people would do, somebody who claims to be their new boyfriend starts cussing at you like crazy. That's really, really, really (x10) stupid. Not only have they caused harm to others, now no one like them especially after they hear about it. Even if they tell other people, I'm sure the other people would feel disgusted. Only bad people would do stuff like that. Don't worry, not every girl is like that, there's tons of awesome girls out there (including me. NO. JK.)