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 Posted: Sat Nov 08, 2008 10:49 pm
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| well...wasnt that conversation...colorful.
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Posted: Tue Jan 20, 2009 1:44 pm
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| Dont beat yourself up dude, I came out of a three year relationship, hurting as hell and all I wanted was to find someone else to pin my emotions on because I wanted to fully move on.. I waited, and a chance came, then he turned around and said he didnt need me now because he had someone closer to home to fuck, and couldn't be bothered to make the effort to - wait for it - catch a freaking bus. To come and see me. So I waited more. And more.
I was single for a year and a half and hated every minute of it, so I stopped looking.. and the minute I did that- I managed to find my current partner. Given he isnt exactly what I consider my type, and I've already managed to make us a little wobbly by not being as.. in love as he claims to be, and I've said some stuff, about not wanting a long term relationship, but I still love being with him all the same.. And he's.. so caring. I mean I really couldn't wish for a better partner..
So my advice is just.. stop looking. Everyone says it, yet everyone also says "You're not putting yourself out there enough" and its like.. WTF. Which one do I do? But I mean, my partner and I didnt even go on a date, we met at a gig, but we didnt like.. hit it off or anything (In actual fact he was drunk and took the piss out of me...... quite a bit.) (It was the drink. Not him. He's lovely. Lol.) But its so true- the minute you stop looking, it finds you.
As for that girl.. / asshole who had her phone- I can remember stuff like that.... From Middle School. I just wouldn't pay any attention, its quite clear he's a third (? -- Dont know relevance of age range, Im british) grader. LOL.
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Posted: Wed Jan 21, 2009 3:42 pm
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| Sometimes guys can just be so jealous and insecure.
The things that guy said were totally out of line and uncalled for.
The girl who more than likely exagerated the situation to cause even more drama - she definitely isnt worth your time!
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Posted: Thu Jan 22, 2009 8:28 am
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| Was this yet another Cali girl, Hiroku?
You know my opinion about that subject, and you know my feelings for you.
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Urboros
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Posted: Thu Jan 22, 2009 8:50 am
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| that's happen to a good friend of mine, you really have to ask the girl in question... for all you know that guy was her brother or one of her friend's friend, playing what they think is a joke...
...due to the level of maturity in the phone response I'd say don't even bother with the girl if she hangs out with "trash" like that; do you want to be associated with that "trash" not I said the cat.
anyways I have decided cali is just as bad as ohio, in that weird things always happen
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Freshie
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Posted: Thu Jan 22, 2009 9:34 am
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| I dunno weither to talk about my Cali boyfriend or not. However hes not my boyfriend anymore. Stupid California girls.
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See them on their big bright screen
tan and blonde and seventeen
Eating nonfood keeps them mean
but they're young forever
If they must grow up
they marry dukes and earls
I hate California girls
They ain't broke, so they put on airs,
the faux folks sans derrieres
They breathe coke and have affairs
with each passing rock star
They come on like squares
then get off like squirrels
I hate California girls
Looking down their perfect noses
at me and my kind
do they think we won't
well, never mind
Laughing through their perfect teeth
at everyone I know
do they think we wont
Get up an go?
So
I have planned my grand attacks
I will stand behind their backs
with my brand-new battle ax
Then they will they taste my wrath
They will hear me say
as the pavement whirls
"I hate California girls..."
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Then again, I wouldnt be able to help people with these problems..since I'm starting out terrible with my problems too. :/
However I now have someone who loves me dearly. Etc. :3
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Posted: Thu Jan 29, 2009 6:27 pm
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| you think you're 'unlucky in love'
2 n a half years ago my ex dumped me for a man!! 2 months before we were supposed to be married  i thought that was it..i had no idea he was gay..i mean...he'd been my boyfriend for 4 years!! after that i just gave up..i thought nothing would go right for me. ever!
but now...ive got a new guy..really happy...just got a new house together ...things couldnt be better .gif)
all i can say is...never give up on yourself...things change...its her loss
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Posted: Thu Jan 29, 2009 7:05 pm
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| Hiroku, my dear, you are amazing. I know I'm just some creepy teenage girl who broke into your house and stole all your socks and pens, but I'm truly honest. I'm glad you were calm about the ordeal and let him get pissed off more. If he decided to be with that punk, then it's really not you you need to look down upon. It's the dumb little girl who'd rather have a s***-for-brains boyfriend than an interesting guy such as yourself.
I know this is some odd months old and it's probably nothing more of a statement when I say so as of now, but you really are a great guy, and you will find someone worth your time. because she, apparently, wasn't worth anything. I apologize if you feel/felt strongly for this woman, but if she went off and didn't use her head, then she could mean less to me than a Sea-Tac hooker, to be honest.
:3
/October-January post- ACTIVATE o.o
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OMG MY FACE
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Posted: Fri Feb 20, 2009 10:39 am
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| Chu wrote: |
| Just do exactly that. Be friendly, but don't be overly friendly. Care, but don't let them know it. Love, but protect yourself and be cautious of others. |
I don't want to get into this whole discussion, but I do want to touch on what Chu said there, and disagree with it. Sometimes you have to go for what your heart wants, or else live to regret it later. A person has to accept you for who you are, and that can be a trying and painful thing to go through trying to find that one special person who really completes you and makes your life worth living every day.
If I hadn't actively pursued things with Kalin, hadn't let her know in some way or another every time we spoke that I loved her, regardless of the degree of that love, things wouldn't be the way they are today for [us]. Kalin moved all the way across the country to be with me, displaced herself from all her friends and family... do you think she would have done that if she wasn't ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that I loved her and always would?
I know the situation is hardly the same, but at the same time the principle behind it is. I'd known that Kalin was my better half for long before circumstances would ever allow us to be together [ and even then, we had to WORK towards being together, it took time, and energy, and money ] and all I could do was let her know in little ways from the way I talked to her, from the ways I let her know that I had been thinking of her in the [often long] lapses in time we hadn't been speaking... and it paid off in the long run. I don't just say this because I know she'll eventually read this but every single day I wake up next to that gorgeous bit of perfection that God or whoever else has blessed me with... I forget how tough life is. How shitty our economy is. I forget everything, and for that moment when I open my eyes and see her... life is beautiful.
It's cheesy I know but it's the absolute best way I can describe how much she means to me. And to bring it around back towards relevance, I wouldn't have that amazing feeling I get from being with her if I hadn't worked to let her know how I feel.
Chu, I know that what you're saying is knowing boundaries, but please, Hiroku, and/or any one else who's read this thread... don't ever be afraid to let someone know how you feel... you just might live to regret it... or find out that you never really lived at all without that one special person.
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Kitty
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Posted: Tue Mar 10, 2009 1:19 pm
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I'm really sorry that happened. I can relate.
I just broke up with the love of my life. Things weren't going to work out. He didn't want to move to Canada and I didn't want to move to the US.
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Posted: Tue Mar 10, 2009 3:33 pm
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She's obviously a bitch.
A spineless, slutty bitch.
I don't know you, but you seem like the kind of person that deserves way better than that.
For someone to actually cancel a date, go off and find another boyfriend, and allow said boyfriend to text whom she was going on a date with is low. Very low.
I'm sorry to hear this happened, I hope you feel better soon.
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Vickicat
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Posted: Wed Mar 11, 2009 8:56 pm
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| She sounds like a loser. If she weren't, she would have answered you herself instead of letting that dumbass take her phone. And the way he talks is so disrespectful in consideration of her, it's sickening. If my boyfriend borrowed my phone and texted people on it telling them that I was sucking his dick, whether it was true or not, you better believe I'd slap him for it. If she's dumb enough to allow that then she deserves what she gets.
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Aaya-Tan
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Posted: Sat Mar 14, 2009 11:24 pm
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| Hiro-san, I don't want to go into this huge long debate of how love is awesome, love is the sht, and all this lovely colorful things.
But I'll let you know this.
It's never easy. Like a few have said, the moment you stop looking is when you find someone. Usually when you're with someone else or worse, which I think is what happened to you. For all I know, I think you were totally punked or worse.
I am sorry that that happened to you, but, the old saying holds true, and as much of a bitch it sounds like I am to say it, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
When I was in highschool, I was with this boy for four years. We were going to get married, bought the ring and everything.
He ended up having to move away with his parents, and I was talking to him about plans of finding an apartment or something nearby once we tied the knot.
Two weeks later after that phone call, I stop by for a visit, and he kills himself while I'm still in the house. No explanation, no warning. Nothing.
Since then I've been lied to, nearly raped, beaten, verbally abused, neglected... It's just a very hard thing to go through. You end up realizing that 'is this even worth it? Why do I even bother giving my all for everything, when I get nothing in return'.
You feel like 'I smile at the world and give it a hug, then it knees me in the gut (or your case it seems the crotch, because that burn was bad)'.
Romantically detaching yourself from everything and everyone, however, isn't the answer. My mother did that when she dumped my father, and she's been the most miserable woman I've ever seen. I don't know if it's the same for males, but I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
Even though I've been hurt, not only because of them, but my own mistakes that I've made (small, mind you, not necessarily anything bad), it's.. It's sad. I don't believe in pre-marital sex, and I'm not all that pretty (at least in my eyes and the eyes of most of my family who's constantly trying to change me every chance they get), so I don't exactly have boys banging on my front door to go out with me.
And online, it seems that guys don't want to take the effort to come see me. I can't exactly pack up and go visit people as much as I want to, as I don't have the means to (car, money, etc, if I get a job, I wouldn't be able to take time off). And because I put my all into every relationship, such as giving presents through the mail, poetry, prose, artwork, commissioning other artists, you know, being as romantic as I possibly can because that's how I want to be treated. A visit would just show that they care enough about me to see me.
And if they show that, I can convince my family, or have enough courage to ask time off from my employer, to visit them in return.
But..
No one deserves to have their heart broken like that, I'm really sorry that you had to go through it that way, but.. In a way, I think it was kinder. Because if you had been face to face with this guy and her at the same time.. You might have done or said something you regret later.
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lunexor
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 8:58 am
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| Date more mature women?
But don't isolate yourself. There are plenty of girls out there looking for a sweet guy, because we've all seen plenty of jerks. Really, all you have to do is say a few sweet words, and you're there.
Just, don't give up, because thats just a stupid thing to do.
And you seem to have issues with yourself as well, and if thats true, keep in mind that you have to "Love yourself before you can love anyone else." Don't try to get into a relationship if you can't love your own darn self first. Things won't end well, and you'll end up hating yourself more.
Self confidence is everything.
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