What are real life friends?

[Chi]

@Rilea

:/ Honestly, I would think HARD like majorly if I have to choose between a husband ( Unless he makes me the happiest in the world and barely fights and etc xD ) and my best friend. I would be in the toughest situation in the world Dx

But, yeah that's a bit harsh of her to do that. To throw a friend as if such a world is to not exist.

@Miyani-chan

MUCH MORE. I get hurt emotionally too many times that I've given up on life >>;

@Skrae

Everyone leaves eventually yes, but I wish I had more real life friends like that like you do, but I guess my life is getting better. But, I better not speak so soon because it can stab me in the back >.>;

[KittinVonTease]

To me a life friend is a friend that you know will be there for you througout your entire life. I have friends that have moved away and we don't see each other or talk to each other as often, but when we do talk it's like they were never gone. I could call them at 3 a.m. and they would answer the phone. Life friends are those that truely do enjoy your company and don't just hang out with you because they couldn't find something better to get into.

[Haley]

a real friend to me has no matter in if they are with you or not. My best friend I met on Solia Online. He and I have been talking since august, and have been talking on the phone since early October. he is without a doubt the best friend i could ever have. He calls every night, knows when somethings wrong (even if i don't say anything about it), and... is just amazing!!

We share a lot of the same interests and characteristics, so we get along great and can usually hold great and long conversations :] Our usual phone call, according to my phone, is around 120 minutes... two hours, right? lol I'm terrible at math. but yes. A true friend just needs to be there for you, talk to you, and know you well. As he does. :] <3

[Antheia]

My 'best friend' is named Mandi. We've been best friends ever since the day we met, which was when I was only half a year old, and she was a year old, I was at her very first birthday. It's Freshman year right now, and it's ending, and we're still 'best friends', even though recently she back-stabbed me, and others.
Let me further explain this:
She cheated on her (ex now) boyfriend twice in the same night, THEN broke up with him, and when he chose to give her TWO more chances, she blew him off for an asshole who treated her like shit, and then he broke up with her, can you say dumbass? I can.
She, then, stole one of her best friends boyfriends, and at the same time was talking to the guy who fucked me over and basically left me for dead, and was telling him how much she liked him, and was flirting with him during french class (the only time I'm not around here and there is no possibility of me showing up), I heard all this from him and my friend Lechia (a reliable source, she would never, and I mean never, lie to me, she has french with them both).
Well apparently Mandi has been trash talking me behind my back WITH Mike (the asshole), and finally I confronted him and was like "You are SUCH an asshole."
And he goes "How the hell am I an asshole!?"
And I'm like "You're a cheat, a liar, a user, what i hate most of all about you is you lied, you couldn't straight up tell me why we can't have a relationship, you had to blame it on a girl named Mirium. And apparently you were telling people how 'dumb' I am, well guess what asshole, I'm not an ignorant little girl and I know just how to end your little games."
He got pissed off and was like "You know what I don't even care! Mandi talks so much shit about you, and I bet she told you what I said, huh? See, this is why we didn't work out."
And the last thing said between us was me and I said "No Mike, YOU are the reason we didn't work out. You lied to me and used trickery against me, went behind my back to tell people nasty shit about me, and wouldn't even be honest with me about why we couldn't have a relationship. And ya know what your problem is most of all? You don't care about who you hurt, you don't care about whose heart you break in two and leave for dead, and you know, I hope karma bites you right in the balls and shatters your arrogance, and everything you ever loved. I can't wait until that day comes, because you know very well what karma owes to you, and I'll be standing right there when you fall on your face. I was nothing but nice to you, and all you did was use me up and toss me to the side, and I don't play like that Mike, I'm not a just a piece of meat, I'm a human being, and I'm a lot smarter than what you gave me credit for. Goodbye."

Mike took my virginity, the one thing I can never get back, all the while promising me we'd date, but also talking to so many other girls and screwing quite a few of them, and bragging about it, not to mention telling people how dumb I am.
I'm not dumb or ditzy just because I don't know all of the information you do, and don't care about dirk bikes or boxing, or cars.
I'm mainly upset with Mandi over this, because she had better NOT deny this, because she knows I won't believe her, I've given her the benefit of the doubt way too many times and she just crossed the god damn line way too far this time.
And she'd better have a good god damn explaination as to why she went behind my back and stabbed me right through the heart the way she did.
She knows I fell head over heels for Mike, and knows he was the only thing i had to look forward to until he screwed me over, and she knows just hot it happened too, every step of the way I informed her, so if she's REALLY going to ignore all that, and me (her 'best friend' of 14 freaking years! I'm almost 15) than she can just kiss everything we've ever had goodbye. This isn't just about Mike, this is about me trusting her to do the right thing, and finding out the did the opposite.
:/

Sorry this is such a huge and pointless rant, I just needed to get it off my chest. (:
And ya know, even through all this and so much more lately, I'm still an optimistic person. I know they'll get what's coming to them eventually, and if they don't for a long time, then hey, I guess they're just lucky sons of bitches, but eventually they'll fall.
Everyone does eventually.

[Trebble Cleff]

Well, so far I'm fifteen.
The only friends that I had, which are two, are pretty close to me.
They:
Don't care what I look.
Don't care about my religion.
My nationality.
Respect what I do.
Don't cuss, just like me (I don't)

[Transcendence]

Yes I understand where you are coming from. Highschool is hard. People change a lot then. Also once you graduate and move on its like...you dont even know those people anymore. They are strangers. They go on with their lives and change and grow and become something different. Its the way life is. You should just move on and try to find more friends that meet your needs. Just because you dont deserve to have someone hurt you like that. She isnt a real best friend then is she?

[Graymalkin]

I have a few long time friends.
My friend Kayla - 'Batman' and I have been friends since sixth grade,
My friend Ariel - 'Jellybean' and I have been friends since fifth grade,
My friend Kristian and I have been friends since fifth grade,
and then there is my friend Crystal who has been my friend since birth.
I get along with her really well, always have with all of these people.
My online friends are great people as well and I love them in a way.

Most long term friendships do not last, but I am glad a few of mine have.
Middle school and Highschool ones bear a lot of strain as well.
What with all the "You do not look like this we don't like you."
And all the other crapola that goes with it.
So... everyone changes but as long as you are you,
some friends who might last a lot longer than others,
might just stick around long enough to be the old time friends.

[Vickicat]

I don't really understand the friendship drama stuff. I guess because I am a shy person, and don't make friends with a ton of people. The friends I do have are very good friends. And while I will say that I have had issues with them at times, it isn't the goofy shallow stuff. It's kind of hard to explain. I think the biggest problem I have with many of my friends is they kind of don't like my boyfriend, or they get annoyed with him or something. And it bugs me if they say or do something to him that isn't nice. I'm going to stick up for him, I've been with him for eight years. Though I do know that he does do some things that make them mad. But anyway, I never had to deal with the stupid high school drama kind of thing. My friends that I have now are people who I met in high school. I've known some of them as far back as eighth grade and they are still my friends almost ten years later. I don't have fake friends who just tried to be popular or whatever. I did run into this sort of thing one time. This girl was new the school and she acted like she wanted to be friends with me, and I kind of felt that something was up, but I was nice to her anyway, then she turned around and started being a bitch. And I sat back and watched her do it to other people as well. Eventually no one liked her. It's that kind of thing I just generally try to avoid, it's pointless.

[Weaseldale]

My real life and online friends are all really important to me. A friend is a friend, and close friends are like family, no matter if I've met them for real or not. I have three best friends in the world, and two of them are online. But I wouldn't say that they aren't real life friends, because all three of us already plan to meet up after we're all out of highschool. My other best friend has known me since I was three, and I probably have told her more than I've told anyone else.

I've dealt with friendship drama before, but most of that was early on in middle school, and by the end of it I was in the group I'm in now. None of us try to be popular, because we're just the people who don't fit into the labels. So far, nobody in the group has been back-stabbed by someone else who's a part of it. I guess I just got really lucky as far as friends go.

And about the whole 'me or your husband' thing early on, anyone I ever met and fell in love with would be one of my best friends, so that would make it even harder.

[Iregyura]

For me, I don't really have a "best friend." I don't really believe in that. I mean, I have lots of good friends that are willing to help me anytime, and they all qualify for a best friend. That's why I don't have one. I think that they're all my "best friends," so it doesn't really matter if I have best friends or not. Plus, sometimes, "best friends" they don't last long. They break up and don't even talk to each other sometimes. I mean, if they're funny, but they're really mean, it's no good staying with them. (by the way...I don't really go like, "Oh girls can only be best friends with girls..so yup.) If you really talking about telling a friend you can really trust your secrets, I have to say none, really. I mean, they're really nice, but I don't think that I can really trust them with some of my private matters. I guess that's just the way I think.
I also don't have a "best friend" because I don't want to favor one over the other, because, like I said, they're all really good friends that are willing to stick up to me. That's why. Also, they all have their own unique qualities, and it makes it fun to laugh and spend time with all of them together than to stick to one close friend and tell secrets all day. Sorry, I'm just not like that type of person.
But if you really, really want a close answer to who I actually (yes, I actually consider that I have one...kind of) consider my best friend, I have to say it's the guy that used to smoke (if you read some other forums). He isn't one I can tell like more girl-ish matters, but still he's someone you can rely on and tell private matters with and that he won't tell anyone else. That's really nice of him, because I don't like it when a friend spills all of your secrets (on purpose or accidental.) Plus, he can really comfort you if you're feeling down, unlike some other people who can only think of, "Oh, I'm so sorry," to say. So I guess I can say that he's my best friend. ^____^
Also, best friends don't have to be a human-->human relationship. I could also be a human-->pet relationship, by the way.

[Megami]

[BiscuitQueen]

Real life friends for me are friends who are friends with me outside the internet.

Unless you are talking about "REAL" friends, then the matter is completely different. Real friends for me are friends who respect me, care for me, accept me for who I am and not for who they want me to be, listen to my rants, will not betray me and if they do, find the courage to apologize and put in effort to mend our friendship again, wait for me, have a give and take relationship with me so it's an actual relationship, and connect with me on a personal level. Of course, I will do the same for my real friends. I will do the same for any of my friends, rather they be new or old. If I've met you, at least once, you are a friend to me.

[Sachiyo]

To me, real friends are the ones that would stand by your side no matter what happens, pick you up when you fall, and have a shoulder for you to cry on. They are ones who would accept me for who I am, someone I can tell all my secrets to. I believe I already have one.

[Alyssia]

I haven't read all the posts, but I feel like I'm the only one with something good to say about real life friends.

Not that I have many of them, or that they are all physically close to me., but here's my little run down.

My Friends are people I can talk to about anything, for however long and know that they are listening.
We may not talk every day and we're all world apart, but when we come together we never miss a beat. When we talk on the phone its like I never left
We support each other in all pursuits no matter how bazaar, and we do our best to assist each other and give advice when needed.
We laugh, cry, offend, any pry into each others lives. We know when somethings not right and we do our best to fix it.
We care, show compassion, consideration, and sympathy to each other and we try to be dependable towards one another as well.
Bottom line, we can be totally real with one another and not have to think about it.

[Imaginative Sarah]

My boyfriend. He's my one and my only. <3 He's everything.