What are real life friends?

[Chi]

@Rae

O.o Oh how similar you are to me. My best friend is only mainly my school friend or my aim buddy talking friend. We barely hangout. Nor do I tell her almost anything of my personal life because either. 1; I feel like everytime I attempt the friendship between me and her drifts farther away. 2; I feel like I can trust her, but I'm afraid of trusting her. if that made sense.

and yet another similarity, except for the screamo type. xD
-nods- Internet friends. Most of them are trustworthy depending on where your at :3

[Rae]

Yes, I feel like I hardly hangout with anything besides my screamo friend. o.o
And then we hangout maybe 3 times a month, more or less.

That makes perfect sense to me. x]
I have trouble trusting anyone, since in the past I've had some bad experiences with this. Dx
So even if someone is trustworthy, it's hard for me to actually talk to them about personal problems.
I have one friend that always tells me everything that happens to her, but becomes bored if I try to do the same. Kind of frustrating, but I'm use to it. I've become a pretty good listener.

Yes, internet friends are great. XD
I spend more time talking to them, than friends in real life. ^^;

[Chi]

I chose no life because having a 'life' is way too complicated and way too annoying and insanely irritating. No life for the win >.>;

Heck, I don't even hangout with her three times every month.
More like once in every 3 months and or more when it's outside of school. >>;

Oh gawd, me too. Everyone ruined my trust for them, and I never got the chance of actually truly believe I can trust someone it's annoying D<
Same same same, Online friends tend to be easier though . . . Do you feel like that?

Ah, I see. I also had a friend who does that. She's having troubles which can be understandable and I end up listening even when I'm terribly hurt on the inside cause it's hard for me to say what I feel.

Heck yes <33

[Rilea Python]

I once read somewhere that 'real friends are friends that forgive you no matter what. And you always pick up where you left off after a fight'.

I found it true to some extent. I had a friend since kindergarten. We hung out together all the time, causing trouble and headaches all the time. But when we hit High School she found someone and started to hang out with them more than me. I didn't care, yeah, it irked me a bit, but I knew we were still great friends. Well, the other person turned out to be jealous of me, so she proposed an ultimatum to my friend. My friend, since kindergarten mind you, chose the other rather than try to solve the problem. It's been 2 years since then....but it still kind of hurts.

Because of this, I have a hard time finding real friends. I don't trust people a whole lot because I think to myself, 'they're just going to leave, so why bother?' But...I've gotten somewhat over this mentality and gotten a few friends. ^^

[Rae]

Aww Rilea! That sounds terrible, no one should have to choose one friend over another. Your friend made a poor decision. D:
It's true, real life friends are so complicated. They sure seem to stress me out...

Yes, online friends are a lot easier! You don't need to worry about trust and depending on them. And you can meet so many nice people. ^^

Yeah, that's tough. When you have something on your mind, but you have no chances to talk about it.
If I tell my friend I'm upset about something she always seems to think it has something to do with her, when I really just need to get it off my mind.

[Rilea Python]

It wasn't just that the other person was her friend as well as mine, but it was her 'partner'. So that made things all the more complicated.


Well, I think you've got to trust online friends to some extent. Like on avi sites, you've got to trust your friend that they'll constantly update in your joint thread. Or that item they're borrowing, you've got to trust them that they'll always give it back in the end.

I always have something on my mind. But I usually keep mostly everything to myself, which my husband hates, so I never end up talking about it to my best friend. But...we've got a lot in common, so she does the exact same thing. So we end up never really talking to each other about our problems unless their serious and staring at us in our faces.

[tigerangel]

I have "friends at work", which of course are the people I work with. But other than them, I really don't have any real life friends that I go and do things with regularly.
It makes me happy for the online friendships that I have forged over the months and in some cases, years.

[Chi]

@Rilea

Oh, how wonderful it would be if I had a friend like that. x3

I also find that rather true as well considering none of the other statement of true friends end up to be real.

Your friend . . . Irritates me. ^^; I'm twitching right now because I remember going through that stage in my life where I've been nothing but doing what I can for them and they chose me over a girl whose selfish and will not stop complaining about every little thing. Heck, she even admitted that friend of hers hurt her feelings a lot. ><;

Ah, my best friend(s) I meet in every grade turn out to always either move or something happened to them and needed to leave. Every year it has been that way and it's an unending cycle. :/
Meh, then perhaps you'll find better friends :3

Neither do I, I think that way sometimes as well. When you hangout with friends they'll either bash about other people and I don't get the reason for that. It's just too stupid because they end up being friends with the person they bashed at x.x

@Rae

Online friends ftw >>;

@TigerAngel

Ah, I see I'm not the only one going through this. I'm glad the internet was created :] Without it, I'd probably be nothing.

[tigerangel]

Life would be considerably more boring without my internet friends.
That is for sure.

[Urboros]

real life friend are people out side of the interwebz that I can connect with, hang out, enjoy a debate etc.

I do have a few friends that I like to avoid in real life mostly because one annoys the hell out of me with continous questions, usually the same questions too

the other is coming on to me *gags* I have experssed on many occasions that we are just friends but its like he doesn't hear it. his boasting of how smart he is falls on my deaf ears.

Then I have a bunch of great friends that I can wait to hang out with, or share a new funny youtube video.

[Hikari]

Some real life friends are just that...people you can't stand and want to get away with. I had a friend in school who was one of my best friends from 1st grade until our Senior year and my other friends and I saw her for her true colors.

My best friend ever, however, has stuck by me since Kindergarten - and I'm 21 and she's 20 now. Some friendships are well worth the trouble but others are just a pain and seem to drag on with no benefits at all.

I'm just glad I'm lucky enough to have four good friends and a fiancee rather than one terrible one.

[Chi]

@Tigerangel

I agree completely.

@Urboros

Bahaha! I know exactly how you feel, but I manage to get away from them. Still makes me feel kinda bad. >>;

Well, there are people like that just won't listen even if they heard it. xD

@Hikari

Haha I'm glad to hear your life isn't that bad :3 Hopefully it'll stay that way <33

[Rilea Python]

Chi-
Thats pretty much what happened to me as well. I was there for her every day and listened to her every rant and fears. Then we made friends with another person and had a bunch of good times. Then they just got too 'buddy buddy' with each other and then started dating. I was fine with it, didn't have a problem in the world. Then she just chose the other and turned her back on me.

I mean, I understand her to some degree. If my bestfriend came up and asked me: 'It's either me, or your husband' I would be inclined to say my husband right off the bat. But, considering that we're really close friends I would have to ask her to reconsider and work things out instead of just dropping her like yesterdays garbage.
=/

[Miyani-chan]

In real life friends? I guess they're okay. But, sometimes when they hurt you emotionally, it hurts. Hurts more then it would hurt on the internet, I guess.

[Skrae]

Hmmm...Most of my friends are the people I see almost every day in real life.

My very best friend is someone I'd trust to get me out of trouble no matter what. Then again, I've been more than halfway in love with him for a few years now. ^^;;

Most of my friends though, are people I've learned that I can trust. Incidentally, they are almost all men. Well, guys more than men...they're not THAT mature yet.

I have one or two soley online friends, but of them, a couple I speak to on the phone as well. One's a marine actually, and he's pretty awesome.

I've lost so many friends over the years that I cling to the ones I have for all I'm worth. Everyone leaves eventually, but I try to keep them as long as I can.

<3