Child Molestation

[Yaneci DeNovi]

[lunexor]

[quote="Keito"]

[Transcendence]

I personally do not think that therapy and rehabilitation work. The people that have these thoughts are sort of you know mess up in the head and they just cant change that part of their mind.

Last night I was watching a show on tv, and this guy taught piano lessons. He was great at teaching and everything and he had hundred of kids for students, but he was a child molester and such. He would make the kids play the piano naked and he would turn on a hidden camera and he would touch them. It was horrible. However when it came down to it, with all the evidence of all the kids, the judge only gave the man 40 counts of child molestation and child solisitizing or something like that instead of the 125 counts that he should have gotten.

Imagine! How can someone that has so many students and such go SO long without anyone saying anything against him. And how can he be charged with such a small piece of his true evil!? I think that often molesters and other types of people like this as well as rapist..are not able to change and they are not punished harshly enough.

Yes, I think that castration would help. I think that along with it, should be a jail time and perhaps a fine that needs to be paid to the person who he/she touched or raped.

I havent ever been molested, but I have been sexually harassed. It was in middle school, by some guys in my grade. I still remember their faces, I wont ever forget them. Even after I am graduated I haven't forgotten. I am happy that I had the guts to slap the ring leader which knocked some sense into him. However I never told my parents or anyone. The only people that knew were the people involved, my friend, and I have told my boyfriend.

[Weaseldale]

Have you ever been molested, or known someone that has been?
No, but many people very close to me have been. One of the adults in my life I care about was raped and molested repeatedly by her grandfather.

How does it affect your/their life?
It never goes away. You can get better, and almost forget it happened. But rape and abuse and things like that are like scars. No matter how healed they are, they're still always gonna be there.

What measures do you think should be done to prevent these types of things from happening?
No more measures can really be done. You can be put to death for some rape, and I think the death sentence is wrong. So if your going to do something about it, find out why most rapists become rapists. Stop the things that cause it.

And...what sort of punishment do you think should be administered for repeat offenders?
Life in prison for the absolute worst of the worst.

One of my best friends in the entire world was raped when she was seven. It's only a scar for her now, she's mostly better, but it still has effected her. She doesn't believe they should be killed for their crimes.

[DistortedBrwain]

Have you ever been molested, or known someone that has been?
I know some people, never have been myself thank goodness.

How does it affect your/their life?
Messed up, but I dont wanna get into detail since it is a touchy subject. I mean i dont wanna tell private stuff about those peeps.

What measures do you think should be done to prevent these types of things from happening?
I dont think measures can be taken, it just happens, sometimes even by the people you trust the most, like a dad raping his daughter or son (yes boys also get molested, a lot of times its alway about females but its not only them ya know)
But you should try to signal it, never walk alone on street at night and stuff. I dont think any other measures can be really taken to prevent it, to stop it is another one though.

And...what sort of punishment do you think should be administered for repeat offenders?
repeat? I think they should get their ass kicked the first time already. Like have a rape machine or somethin and let it rape the hell out of those damn filthy scumbags untill they beg for mercy.

[SenselessPi]

Have you ever been molested, or known someone that has been?
I've never been, thankfully. However, a friend of mine was molested and raped at 11years old by a man of her own Mormon church congregation.

How does it affect your/their life?
The poor girl tried to commit suicide and disappeared for months. She was told by her family and the Mormon officials that her being raped was HER fault. Her immediate family didn't care she was missing, and the few that did care were in another state. Thank God she's with those who do care about her now...

What measures do you think should be done to prevent these types of things from happening?
In cases like hers, I believe the Mormon church shouldn't be allowed to tell women that "Mormon men are upstanding citizens and wouldn't commit such a crime" and they definitely shouldn't tell the victim that it's her fault. It's never the victim's fault, and an 11-year-old child is certainly incapable of lying about it.
Victims need to know that they shouldn't be afraid to reach out. There are plenty of people who can help them, and there are certainly many protective steps to make sure they aren't harmed by their attacker. Parents and others watching children should also take a child saying they were touched inappropriately as a serious matter. Children don't make up that kind of thing.

And...what sort of punishment do you think should be administered for repeat offenders?
I dislike child molesters so badly that I feel they shouldn't be given protection in prisons. If they're caught, toss them to the other prisoners and just scrape up their remains.

[Vixie]

its sick, how can anyone do that to a child. but its not really an issue anymore because kids as young as 10 years old are out having sex and getting pregnant which is disgusting

[Skunkoon]

Lunexor ... your story ... made me cry. Along with all the stories of the people who have been molested. It is a terrible thing that makes the victim feel ... so bad that they would even consider ... death.

If I could change one thing in this world, I think I might want to change this ...


TT~TT

[Menmeth]

[harukoshellkitten]

Have you ever been molested, or known someone that has been?

Yes I have. The first time, I was about 5 and it went on until I was 13. It was my cousin. It wasn't until I was 14 when I got my first sex ed class and understood what had happened was wrong. Of course when I had first started I didn't know what was happening and I had lived in a very sheltered home environment. Then coupled with that I was threatened to keep my mouth shut about it. Usually with slaps to the face or painful arm grabbing to the point of bruises though that wasn't until I was about 10.

The second time I was living with my grandma because we had no place to go so there was me, her, my mom, my brother and sister. It was night time, and my mom went to go pick up my grandma from work and it was about a 40 minute drive. 20 to get to her work and then 20 to get back. My mom had the neighbour's daughter come watch us. I remember it because I was pretending to be asleep. I have mild insomnia and I remember the door opening and hearing a male voice. I knew it was another neighbours son. We lived in an apartment complex. I cant remember what they were saying because it was in Spanish. Then I rolled over and one of my feet were sticking out from under the blanket over the arm rest of the smaller sofa. The next thing I remember is feeling a thick warm fleshy thing on the sole of my foot. I froze and heard them giggling. I at first I thought they might have had one of those rubber chickens that one of them had keeping it warm and then trying to see if they could scare me. A few years later I asked the neighbours daughter what happened that night and she said "Oh yeah (name) put his penis on your foot" I was horrified as she said it like it was a harmless joke.

Then the last time it happened I was 15. I had my very first boyfriend. He was wonderful at first. Then it went downhill to the point where he sexually, mentally and physically abused me. We had the same history class and after many protests he would shove his hand down into my pants and touch me. And I'm betting the teacher knew and didn't do anything. He would hit me and bruise me most of the time. Then I remember once in class I had fallen asleep only to wake up with his name carved in my arm. It's healed now and there are no traces of it thankfully. But I think what was worse then any of that was the mental abuse.

I'm not a model nor do I look like one. Im actually very plain and average and with a few extra pounds to love. And he the ex would ALWAYS tell me I was ugly. No one would ever love me. I was disgusting. I was worthless. I don't deserve to live. And I dealt with that for no more than 3 months.

How does it affect your/their life?

It affects my life in many different ways.

The first way is my self esteem. My boyfriend (of five loving years) says its shot to hell because of all the torment I've gone through.

The second way is I was much more sexually active though not physically until I was 19 1/2. I would troll chat rooms looking for one chat stands and such. I got into hurting myself. I kept in my emotions bottling them up and not letting them out. To this day I despise crying as it makes me feel weak. Though my boyfriend says that its normal and it's ok.

The third and last way is that it has made me very submissive to other people. I obey what they say unless it's against my morals or if they want me to cheat on my boyfriend. But its more that I am completely submissive to my family which has taken advantage of my torment to make it worse with emotional/mental abuse and forcing me to see that same cousin even though THEY KNOW WHAT HE DID TO ME. And he acts as if it had never happened which makes me seethe and want to kill him.

Another thing is I shut down emotionally when I get overwhelmed. Owner says it's "shutting down" because I block everything out and practically shut down like a computer or something. Though he's working on helping me get over these emotional and mental stressers and I've been shutting down a lot less now a days.

What measures do you think should be done to prevent these types of things from happening?

I'm sure warning signs such as "shutting down" emotions, or self harm, being very wary of everyone including family members and keeping an eye on your children.


What sort of punishment do you think should be administered for repeat offenders?

I would have to agree with Menmeth. They need to be made to feel physical pain for the emotional and mental pain they have caused they're victims.

Sorry for such a long post.

[ecco]

[The Emo Duck]

The thing this reminded me most of was were 3 of my boyfriends I had...
I had all of them in 7th grade and early 8th grade.
One of them used to hit me and threaten to do things to me. I ended this one after a week because I tried not to let things get to me and I realized if I stayed with him they eventually would.
The second one was my friend before we went out which made it surprising so I stayed with him even though he threatened me and hit me. He never actually touched me touched but he did through my pants; like he would place his hand down there sometimes. I gave him what he deserved eventually when I saw him making out with someone that wasn't me in the cafeteria... I punched him square in the nose; I find it interesting that that one punch dealt more damage than any hit he ever gave me; it broke his nose and his head flew back and hit the table and he received a concussion. Also at one point in the relationship he attempted to break my arm, I say attempted because he couldn't. It was something I didn't realize, that I was stronger than him the whole time and I could have probably avoided anything he had tried.
The third one is probably the worst. On our first "date" you can call it a date I suppose, it was at his house though and we were just watching tv. No one was saying anything and out of nowhere he grabs my hair and unzips his pants and he pulled my head down and tried to make me give him a blow job...I was in 7th grade so obvious I knew I was far too young to do that so I bit his side and he let go. If I didn't think well under pressure like some people I would probably feel so much worse about it because he would have gotten away with it.

My friend in Texas was molested to the point of suicide. Her dad not only raped her but also her younger sister and her mother. Her mother died in an "accident" in the pool, she drowned in an odd way they said so I'm not too sure it was an accident. Her younger sister disappeared... And she attempted suicide; she was about to shoot herself when her father came up and she accidentally shot her leg. Her father pretended to care and took her to the hospital. She tried to stab herself with the IV because she thought it would kill her... she did eventually die, right after they released her.

...I have a story for everything don't I? heh >>

[Fork]

I hate rapists with every ounce of the blood pumping through and from my heart. Because they use sex to hurt others. My aunt was molested by her older cousin when she was younger. She also never told anyone. I really hate that man, because of what he did to her mindset back then. The only person she's ever told was me. And, what bothers me is, I have alot of little cousins, little girls none the less, and they all stay around my grandma's house all the frikkin time. And my grandparents just let him walk freely around that house. I told my grandma (my aunt's mother O that she shouldnt just let him walk around the house like that. But idunno if she heeded my warning or not.

A punnishment i feel necessary for molesting children is something that should never be taken lightly, Not at ALL. I don't think death or prison is good enough for them. I don't really believing in do unto others and that shall be done to you statement, so i think they should throw those pedos in jail and let them get assraped.

[harukoshellkitten]

[ecco]

ahh well it sounds like you got a real keeper! im glad for you, and for him ^.^ ive had good guys since then, too but at the moment single and gettin sick of it haha! XD oh man.

but hey back to the subject... (sorry for goin a bit off topic guys! D: *runs away*)