A Rant in the Mountains >VULGAR LANGUAGE WARNING<

[TheMountainScene]

I know I'm usually pretty cheery, but Imma let off a little steam, so bear with me.

My girlfriend (Elaine) and I have been together for 3 Years, 2 Days, 8 Hours at this point. We are patient enough with each other to make it through each others problems and I love her to death. She's normally a quiet inward girl, and I can get her to open up to me, but there are times where I get fucking sick of her. When she is bored, she keeps herself entertained by making fun of the way I talk. My voice is... variable. I have been told I have a good singing voice because of its range and it's volume, but that's the problem.
I'm loud when I'm excited
Squeaky when I'm mad
Silent when exasperated
and repetitive when I'm glad
(Yes that rhymed. Get over it)
I know it's all in good fun, and she doesn't mean to hurt my feelings, but I get so freakin pissed on the inside when she pulls that shit on me! It makes me feel unintelligent, and I hate it! I hate it to fucking death. I've spent too long reading, getting shit thrown in my face (one time it was actual fucking shit, I kid you not), finding what interests me, and seen too many god-damned shrinks to be treated like I'm "damaged goods".
She knows I hate it and she won't stop. Sometimes when I spend time with her, it makes me just want to tell her to FUCK OFF
I'm... fragile. Mentally. My senses are damaged and my right brain over-stimulated. It makes me... emotional. Creative. Difficult to bring down from a high. But when I do, I come crashing down. Hard.
Out of all the shit we've gone through, out of all the love, and pain, and working together through our issues, she's found my one fucking Achilles heel when it comes to how I feel and ITS THE ONE THING SHE CAN'T FUCKING STOP DOING. I wonder if God finds it funny. Or entertaining. Or maybe it's some kind of test, I have no frickin clue. All of my prayers are answered with the girl I've dreamt to life (literally. I knew Elaine down to exact features from dreams and she practically fell into my lap one day), and her one flaw is that she can't leave my fucking voice alone.

Keep in mind, I love this woman to death, and the Ultimatum Gambit is not an option. I've come way too damn far to put all the chips on the line and be left with nothing. I can't lose her. If I did, I would cease to exist. She is the cork that holds all of my emotions inside. I was broken and dying when God brought her into my life! What am I supposed to do?!

...

Thanks for that. I feel better putting that somewhere. Read if you want; constructive criticism is nice. Advice is better. Also, if I need to be put in my place, if I'm just full of myself, put me down as well, trust me I need it.

[Maeve]

I can't say much. The only advice I could give you is to talk to her, calmly, and tell her how it really makes you feel (yes, even if you have already done it). Sometimes it takes some time for people to understand that what they are doing is really hurting you, and that you are not just saying "stop that" as a joke or a random sentence.
That and/or learn to laugh of it too. Don't take things so seriously, especially when you know the other person is not trying to arm you. It can be hard, and it will take time too, but if you accept yourself and know all your weirder sides, well, who cares what the rest of the world thinks.

Anyway, I hope things will get better for you ^^

[TheMountainScene]

*nods*
I suppose.
It's frustrating because everything else that's ever happened ever that's bad has just blown over in like, a day.
This is the thing that won't blow over.

[KoyiTar]

Hmm I had a similar situation with someone I was with. He would make fun of my voice. Because when I talk fast or I don't concentrate on it my twangy country accent comes out and he would make fun of it. I one day sat him down in a serious conversation instead of just yelling stop making fun of me or stuff like that I sat him down and told him in a very serious manner that him making fun of me in that way really hurt especially when he did it in front of others it felt like he was putting me down more than just teasing and that if he couldn't stop it and not make me feel bad that I didn't know where we were gonna be at. He actually listened and took it to heart of course a couple years latter he ran off to Texas with someone older than him but meh men suck sometimes.

All I can say is talk to her about it seriously not like Could you please stop it but just tell her how it really makes you feel that it feels more like shes putting you down and taking a stab at you than just having fun with you. If she can't respect that then I don't know what else to tell you other than to lighten up and go along with the joke. I doubt she means to make you feel that way on purpose.

[TheMountainScene]

Maybe I should lighten up.
I have sat down and talked to her seriously about it.
Maybe I'm just too critical...

[KoyiTar]

Well if you had given an example of how she teases you about your voice I could have given a different angle but without that I am not sure what else to tell you that could help you out.

[TheMountainScene]

Sometimes when we argue or I get worked up she'll start copying me in a stupid voice, or she'll just point and snicker and will stop taking me seriously!
ITS SOOO CHILDISH >.<!!!

[KoyiTar]

Lol Shes just being a chick I used to do that to my guy to whenever we would fight over something stupid. He would get worked up so I would mimic him that or just stomp off and leave the room. I think most girls start the mimicking guy thing when they are having a fight with there guy it's just a girl thing.

[TheMountainScene]

*headdesk* Wonderful.

[ecco]

its friendly, as well :P i do that to my ex sam (who i may be getting back together with XD stay tuned lol~ ) cos he always tries to wind me up or one-up me on something, so i just start making silly noises and faces at him and such. and he does it to me too.

i think she means it affectionately... if she was actually annoyed or bored by what you were saying she'd stop listening or just change the subject or something.

[TheMountainScene]

{Does not understand this kind of affection}
How is making me angry affectionate?
I like cuddly talking-about-feelings affectionate.
I like going to malls for ice-cream and window-shopping affectionate.
I like staying up till 2 am making something to have it break and give it to her anyway affectionate.

How is irking my out of reality affectionate?

[ecco]

its affectionate in the sense that she is only playing with you i squeak when i get excited, hysterical, or annoyed at something, and sam imitates my squeaking :P but its not meant as an insult.

if you REALLY have a problem with it, and its alright if you do, just tell her its the one thing she does that really does upset you, even if she doesnt mean for it too. she should understand that and stop if you make it plain that its something that just really brushes you the wrong way. we all have pet hates, if yours is having your voice imitated thats fair enough.


buuuut it also may be worth just trying to roll with it. if you are such a great couple and love eachother, im sure she doesnt mean it to make you mad. or, maybe she just thinks youre cute when you get mad ^^; sounds weird, but im almost certain this is the reason why people often wind up people they like, hehe.

[TheMountainScene]

Rolling with it...
It's so hard tho...

[KoyiTar]

Its a girl thing that's all I can tell you. My guy used to say things in a fight and I would respond back with mew mew mew mew mew in a exasperated tone. And he would just go fine ok whatever you win this time. Then I would pounce on him and um well yeah your brain can finish that there lol.

[TheMountainScene]

I wish my girlfriend still pounced...
Her parents clipped her wings... er... pouncy... things.

They are the kind of people that believe that anyone that isn't Jesus is going swoop down, bag and tag their perfect little daughter (at least we agree on some things), and take her away somewhere to steal her virginity.

I guess this makes her house kind of a naturally stressful environment.
Even when they aren't there.