Child Molestation

[Transcendence]

Child molestation is a horrible thing that happens to many kids when they are young. More than you might even care to believe. I am about to tell you a story about a girl that was molested by an older boy.

An 11 year old girl was baby sitting her little brother and sister. Her sister is five years old. She sees her cousin around 13-15 years old at the door. She lets him in even though her older sister who is watching her tells her not to. Then the cousin, little brother and sister go in to the other room together to play. About 10 mins later the little girl comes out and tells her older sister that she was touched her private parts inappropriately.

The 11 year old girl didn't do anything about it because she felt it was just a joke and that it wasn't that big of a deal. When her mom gets home the little girl tells her mom what happened. The mother freaks out like she should and tells the older sister to never let the cousin in the house again.

What do you think should have been done? Do you think charges should be filed and action taken?

I think there should be. A kid that is that old should know that it is a very serious thing to touch anyone in places that they shouldn't. They should understand at that age what molestation is. I think that it could mean that the teenage boy was touched in similar ways which led him to do the same. I think therapy should be administered for the boy and authorities should investigate. It is important that things like this are reported before they get out of hand. Too many rapist and molesters go unpunished because the people that are victimized are afraid to speak up. I think it is time more drastic measure are taken with them.

When my half sister was young, teenage years she was molested by her step father. My mom, her step mom, was the only one she told. She felt guilty and like it was her fault that she was touched in that way. My mom felt horrible because she too was molested when she was younger, and by her own grandfather no less! They were both afraid to say anything and to this day no one knows about it. My other half sister sometimes lets her little 3 year old boy be baby sat by this man and because she doesn't know about it she doesn't know what danger she has put her baby in. It is horrible when things like this happen. I feel like her baby boy's life is in danger of being scared just like my sister and my mom's were. But secretes are covered and that's they way people like them.

You often hear stories about child rapists in prison who are often targeted by other inmates because they are thought of as lower and the very scum of the earth. It kinda tells you something when the criminals of this world hate on those that hurt children. There have been stories of child rapists and killers having to be put separate from others for their own safety because there have been reports of them being killed by others in the prison.

So tell me. Have you ever been molested, or known someone that has been? How does it affect your/their life? What measures do you think should be done to prevent these types of things from happening? And...what sort of punishment do you think should be administered for repeat offenders?

I am sorry for the long bit of text you have to read.
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MY THOUGHTS:

Have you ever been molested, or known someone that has been?
I have never been molested, people in my family have, as I have said above.

How does it affect your/their life?
It lives with them forever, they are scared by it.

What measures do you think should be done to prevent these types of things from happening?
I think that the punishment should be raised. This will make people think a little more about what they are doing. I also think that anyone that is suspected or accused should be questioned and put on file to see for sure if they will do it again.

And...what sort of punishment do you think should be administered for repeat offenders?
I think that those that rape children again and again or molest, it doesn't matter, should be placed in prison for a very long time. The amount of time isn't long enough. People often are released and do the same thing over and over ruining more peoples lives. I also think therapy should be mandatory. I think that if it is a male that does it then if he continues his balls should be cut off. And if it is a female that keeps doing it then her ovaries should be removed.

[Embla]

Well I did hear that they are trying to get a law passed where they can keep genetic samples on record of all repeat offense criminals so they can compare DNA at a crime scene and be able to instantly see if its any criminals that are out of jail. But people are against it for some reason ;/ worried about the criminals rights.

I am very for telling people instantly and prosecuting where needed. This issue has not been encountered in my household (at least not to my knowlage). But I do think action should be taken against the cousin, if not at least get him in theropy. I have a low tolerance for older males actions against younger females or vice versa.

[Transcendence]

wow a dna data bank would be amazing and a fantastic idea for the law to do. It would make things easier. You could test after the event at a hospital for the dna and then it could go on record.

[Embla]

It would be wonderful, I just don't understand why people are against it @3@ There for the rights of the criminals, but I say its a good way to keep criminals from commiting crimes, knowing there DNA is on record.

[Yummy Koi <3]

Have you ever been molested, or known someone that has been?

Yes. I was twelve years old, and was molested for a year by my grandmother's abusive boyfriend. I told my mom, but she told me we would get kicked out if I told anyone else. Eventually I told my aunt, and I moved in with her. No action was taken against the man.

How does it affect your/their life?

Every time I got near to an older man, I felt uncomfortable and assumed he had sexual feelings for me. Teachers, bosses, church members, family, etc. I also became sexually active at a very early age, which surprises me because I thought it would scare girls from having sex.

What measures do you think should be done to prevent these types of things from happening?

I don't know how it can be prevented. Anyone could be a child molester. Parents could have a serious talk with their children about it, and to tell them if they are uncomfortable around a certain person. Some kids are too scared to tell their parents, or don't know what's happening to them until it's too late. If a child is able to identify inappropriate behavior from an adult, they can tell their parents before they actually get touched.

And...what sort of punishment do you think should be administered for repeat offenders?

Life in prison. You can't remove that sort of trait from a person. Children are not safe while predators are free. They should also be responsible for the expenses of therapy given to the children.

[Transcendence]

wow. I am sorry about what happened to you in your child hood.

[Keito]

[Fallain]

I don't think enough is being done about child molesters. For my sophomore English project I wrote an essay about the link between child molestation and serial killers. Want to know why? Because there IS a link.

Name a serial killer, (almost)any serial killer. I can tell you if they'd been physically, mentally or sexually abused as children.

It's not just the molesters that are the problems. Sexual child abuse is by far the most disgusting, but physical and mental leave life long scars as well and things need to be done by everyone who performs any of these, even if it's something as "small" as putting your little boy in a dress.

[Keito]

You are on the ball about a lot of topics! I agree with you.

[Susano-wo]

I do know one person who I know was raped as a child.

As Fallain indicated, sexual abuse, or any abuse, for that matter, is like a wave. It spreads out from the victim, and makes it way to others.
I see molestation and rape as worse than murder. The victim suffers for some time, and their life potential is extinguished. When you sexually abuse someone, it affects them for their whole life, and will keep on affecting others through abuse cycles, etc.
Abuses at an early age are sought out later in life. You will seek out abusive boy/girl friends because your father/mother abused you, a person who is raped at a young age will tend to become extremely sexually active (occasionally they will shut down completely, but that is rare), again seeking out chaotic, abusive partners.

And yes, such trauma tends to create more serious problems, namely psychotic and psychopathic behavior, including serial killers (Aileen Wuornos, labeled by the news as the first female serial killer (she's not >.>, but that's ok), had a history as a child of sexual abuse, then allegedly killed a man in self defense while she was a prostitute, and began to kill abusive Johns--which, all in all, is a lot better MO than most serial killers.

MY solution? This might seem harsh, but I have 2. 1. Hung from the neck until dead. 2. Firing squad.

I know the legal system in America has some issues with wrongful conviction, but if we can 100% prove it, (DNA evidence, properly obtained confessions, etc), they have forfeited their right to live. Period. A murderer I can have mercy on, depending on the circumstances, but there is no excuse for this, no mercy in my heart for such scum.
--Susano-wo

[Keito]

[Fallain]

I don't exactly believe in the death penalty unless they've killed the child.

"An eye for an eye". Equal punishment.

If they rape a child, find someone bigger to legally rape them. If they

[Susano-wo]

I think the last part of your post got cut off...but I will respond to what you did post.

Rape is such a depraved, heinous action, that Anyone who would do it needs to be removed--too dangerous, not to mention evil.

Punishment should be in proportion to the crime, as far as is possible. So, the most you can do is execute them.

[KeinLeben]

I don't usually agreed with murder of any kind, but I have to agree with Susano on this one. Especially if it's one of the cases where the child they raped turns into a serial killer like Fallain mentioned. If that's the case, then by killing the one person for raping a child, your actually saving more people because maybe it will put the kid at peace so that they don't grow up to be depraved and murder more people.

[Susano-wo]

/disclaimer/ if anything I say sounds contentious, I am not trying to be /end discalimer/

I really think twice about using ends to justify any means. It goes back to going back in time to kill, lets say in the case, CHarles Manson as a child . Is that ok? or is it murder, in that he hasn't done anything yet, and who knows, maybe a poitive influence could prevent what he became?

--Susano-wo