I'm in trouble. My lifes a total mess.... Pleasehelp me.

[Ravenfeathers13]

I was doing good for a couple of months,avoiding looking for a guy, But I did happen to spend a lot of time with my friend matt jergens. I think I might have a crush on him...I mean, he makes me laugh and lifts up my spirits up when I'm down and he gives warm comforting hugs and he's been there for me through all the crazy high school boy confusion...and he sometimes flirts with me....And I knotice that...I flirt back....and he doesn't care that i'm gothic and like things "normal" people would like....He says thats because he use to be gothic so he can relate to me....
I've known him for a really , realllllly long time.He's got a nice smile and his eyes are kinda pritty....But I'm stressing out that I'mthinking of im like this when theres a 50 percent chance that He doesn't feel that way for me...I mean...He might, I kissed him on the cheek b/f to cheer him up.....and he smiled and said it was okay that I did...

What do you think, my wonderful advice givers

[Ravenfeathers13]

Okay, I'm back.
So, All of my friends were chatting this morning, you know, usual stuff before school starts. The bell rings and we head for class.
KYLE always walks me to my class whenever he can, and today he could.
So, I was trying to think of a conversatin topic and I asked him something that was on my mind for the past couple of weeks.
"Kyle, your not gunna ask me out ever again, are you?"

"No"
"And If I would, it would be a very mall, small chance"

I usually never cry in front of people, but when he said those words, I couldn't stop them from coming.
I knew he just wanted to be friends, but he shouldn't have been leading me on.
I barly spoke today.
My head is so f---ed up right now, It's not even funny.

Can you give me some advice?

ps, thee was suppose tobe a thid pole,for "fluffy" If you wanna vote for him, just put "fluffy" at the center bottom of yor post.

THANK YOU.

[HenceForth]

In all seriousness, you dated the guy for less than a month, get over him. He dumped you and apparently thats not going to change, stop dwelling on that, get over him. Other wise you'll keep dwelling on it and making yourself more and more miserable. It may not be easy, but in the long run it's probably a better choice than chasing after him. You also should think about this: If he really liked you and was worth dating, he would have tried a long distance relationship, and wouldn't have minded only dating you.

Something else you have to do is start considering other peoples feelings, you aren't the only party involved here.
What you're doing is denying your friends the right to have feelings, You think that you should be the only person to like Kyle and he should only like you. What about Kyle's, Jon's or Jacobs feelings?

[Haley]

Oh dear lord... Please... No more melodramatically over young boys who think they are hot shit and try to date everything with a pulse... Seriously. You dated the guy for less than a month, so you cant know the guy that well. your only motivation at first was "hey, he's cute."

:talk2hand: <----Stop before your age regresses any further.

I'm 16, too, but come on. That "omg sarah likes paul, but i liek paul, im like sooo gonna hate her nao" thing is... Childish. Please. You're 16. Don't act childish or stuck up.

One life lesson you should pick up is that yo cannot sued a person to like you. And you cant change yourself to fit them. Like trying to put a puzzle piece together with an entirely deformed one. You can force it, but it really isn't fooling anyone. And it hurts having the knowledge they don't fit, nor will they ever.

If you cared about anyone's happiness, you'd let the man-whore date who he sees fit. He obviously doesn't see you as compatible. Don't cry over it either- it's saving you a whole lot of heart ache in the long run, too. Don't pity yourself because you didn't get the cute boy you hardly know slash have nothing in common with.

Dating rules are beyond immature, too.
"You cant date my ex/friend/brother/etc" states you aren't over them and you cant stand to see either of them happy. Get over your self pity and let them be happy. Let them try. Just because it didn't work out for you doesn't mean they have to give up a potential chance and compatibility.

Get.
Over.
Yourself.
Thank you.

[Ravenfeathers13]

I already desided that I'm not going after him.
I can't, and I won't.
He's not interested.
I have to get use to that.
He's not interested in fluffy, ron, or me, but he wants us (not inclusing ron) to all be friends.
And we are.
Me and fluffy are getting to know each other better, kyle's our "toy".
Our little joke we made up.
Ron'll come back in a couple of weeks, but we won't trust him like we did before.
I'm getting better, theres a guy that has 2 of my classes that I think I /Might/ Be crushing on.
I DON'T KNOW, I JUST REALIZED IT TODAY.
Its just, I think why is sounded so overdramatic n stuff because those days I was stressed that fluffy was gone and that ron was comin back, and I'm use to eing used and thrown away, so he hit a nerve there...
[/nods]
All the guys see me as "eye candy" Or A touch and grab girl.
I'm neither, But all the same, they threw me away.
Thats why It urts a little bit, But I'm getting better.
Thank you for the advice, and I would love if you gave me more...
n///n

[Ravenfeathers13]

I got to know kyle before we wen't out.
I forgot to put that In my other post, sorry.
n///n

[Vixie]

i agree with haley, you've not known him long enough and yet you dated him and now are in "agony" over some self-centered guy who you only thought as.. as "cute" there is NOTHING you can do and NOTHING you can say to him to change anything, stop being selfish and get over it.

and FYI your NOT aloud to double post, triple post or whatever...

[Vickicat]

Like a lot of people said, you weren't dating this guy very long. It shouldn't really be that hurtful to you. I don't think one month is really long enough to fall in love with someone, even if you knew him a little bit before that. It doesn't really sound like you knew him for that long before you started dating him. I just don't really get it when people get super upset over someone who dumped them less than a year later. I understand if it's a longer time then that, of course it's going to hurt then. But these silly little short term relationships aren't anything to cry over. You'll probably come to realize this as you get older. Hopefully you'll realize that this guy wasn't ever worth it in the first place, and be grateful that he dumped you this early in the relationship before you could get more attached. Any guy who isn't looking for commitment isn't worth wasting your time on.

[Transcendence]

Sometimes teen girls are looking for great love in highschool. More often than not however, guys are not ready to be that love. Boys are very much so these days jerks. Often they want to go out with every girl in teh school and sleep with all the hot girls. They are more interested in sex and the here and now instead of the future and a real and true relationship. It is quite sad, but its the way it is. Unless you find a genuine guy that really wants to be with you truely for the relationship I dont suggest being with a boy until they are a little more mature. They are often just really stupid in high school and lots of drama happens because girls fall in love with them and then the guy cheats on her or dumps her for another hotter and prettier looking girl. its the way highschool is and the sooner you are able to recognize a genuine guy the sooner you will find the man of your dreams.

[laniparis]

Maybe you need to find someone that takes your appearance as a second thought, not a first...

Sure, having a cute guy might seem great, but you'll probably find most of them are as shallow as a puddle and as mature as a rodent... (no offence cute guys but, most of you are, lol)

It's fine to innocently flirt and find your ground with guys but your heart is sure to be broken if you always were it on your sleeve...

It might seem uncool to date the nerd, or geek, or dork, but you'll probably fine that they're much nicer, much more considerate to feelings (unlike the guy who shunned you), etc...

Or, you could wait till someone else makes a move, it might feel like your waiting a lifetime, but it'll probably be worth it...

Not to mention, now that I'm out of high school, looking back at high school boys... lol, so wrong

[Iregyura]

Well, this guy obviously don't think that you guys work out, and plus, maybe you guys just don't match. I mean, he's not the only great guy out there, so, it's OK just to forget about you guys and the relationship. Sure, you guys could still be friends, but I'm pretty sure it'll kind of be awkward between the two of you. Maybe over time you guys can be normal kids again.

[Ravenfeathers13]

Thank you all for helping me through that.
Now I'm at a new school, the things that I listed ha[ppened long long ago and You guys were completely right. Thank you.Now my family on my fathers side wants nothing to do with us. I don't really care, I mean Yeah I feel a little bit rejected and all but I'm not going to let it bother me. My mom's really upset about it though. His mother won't even accnowlage her even though she said (she didn't actually say this becayuse she is mute and def, but she signed it) that she fprefered her over this selfish woman my dad was with at one time (she stole things and was really mean to my nana anne...) Oh yeah, I forgot to put that thats her name...sorry.
My mom says she plays favorites and thats whymy dada has to to drive to her house whenever she texts him asking him to move things and run errands for her. My dad has already too much to do, being a policeman and all, also working at least 9 hours after his shift and he doesn't even get payd for it. My nana anne lives with my dads sister, my auntie lisa. Her husband drinks all the tuime and whenever I came over (even ifmy [parents were there) He'd just isolate himself within his room and drink. Lisa's daughters, caily and morgen, don't want anything to do with me. I understand though,, that caily is older and has her own life. That I don't mind, I still love her. But my mom says morgan..."tolerates her from tiime to time but won't have anything to do with her". Thats what she said tomy dad and I overheared. Yeah..thats the stuff thats going on in my life right now.
Also looking for a boyfriend. Wish me good luck.

~Ravenfeathers13~

[Iregyura]

But I'm glad we helped Hope you have a better time now!

[laniparis]

I'm glad you've managed to find your way from the first situation.

Aww, I feel sorry for your current one, if you ever want to talk pm me, or write here.

[Ravenfeathers13]

You girls are so kind to me. Thanks for being here to listen to my rants and troubles and such. It makes me feel like there are people who will listen for once. Why can't the girls at my highschool be more like you guys?

If I do need someone to talk to, its great to know I can email any of you~
[/dances]
Look at dah smily face...lolz--->