Twinklestar
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 Posted: Mon Dec 01, 2008 2:51 am
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| Do you think parents should spank their children? |
No. I can't honestly give a reason as to why i say no.
But i am pretty sure that it is because i was raised by my grandmother, who told me that it was wrong.
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| Would/do you spank your children? |
No, never
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| Do you believe that spanking causes repercussions such as character or social development? |
Actually i do. Being hit by a parent no matter what it was for or if it was just on the bum, can still cause pain to a kid emotionally..
They could feel unloved at times.
I knew a little boy that felt unloved because he was spanked. He got made fun of for it at school as well. So that didn't help it either.
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| Were you spanked as a child? |
No, and i am thankful for that.
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| Where exactly is the line between spanking and outright abuse? (If you believe there is one.) |
I don't believe there is a line. Abuse is hitting a child among other ways of hurting them, and spanking is hitting them as well. Same thing to me
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Raz
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Posted: Fri Jan 02, 2009 8:55 pm
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| do you think parents should spank teh're kids?
Yes, if they don't learn from verbal punishment. But if the words seem to be flying by their head. then spanking should be administered.
Would/do I?
It depends on how they comprehend what I'm trying to discipline them for, and learn from that.
Social repercussions?
The amount of spanking vs. the crime certainly would affect this.
Too much would probably would result them being more secluded, or anti social to others.
Was I spanked?
Yes i was, but not often.
The Difference?
spanking is appropriate when a rule was broken or if the child has been acting out.
BUT I do believe then it is abuse if the child does Not understand why he/she/ is being punished.
also it wouldn't be recommended as punishment all or even most of the time. They need to know that there isn't only 1 type of punishment as a repercussion for their actions.
Second note: I DO NOT believe spanking is abuse. Hitting anywhere else on the child in any other way is abuse. unless the child is old enough to be slapped in the face. (Only use when appropriate: such as an offensive verbal push made by the child)
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shroudedgirl
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Posted: Mon Jan 12, 2009 4:17 pm
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| I think that parents should be allowed to spank their children. But! But, I feel that spanking, only with your hand, on the leg or butt, and it can't leave any sort of mark. If you use any sort of item, like a switch or a spatula, anything, then that is abuse. If you leave a mark, its abuse.
I was spanked as a kid, but only until I was like 7 or 8. After that it was groundings. It was never hard and it only really was to scare me.
I just would hate to see it get to the point where if a mom grabs her son at the grocery store for acting up and swats him on the butt real fast that she would be hauled off for abuse. Thats ridiculous.
Its pretty much common sense when it comes to the differences between abuse and normal discipline. I do not think that just from a few spankings as a kid that any normal child would have any mental repercussions.
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KittinVonTease
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Posted: Tue Jan 13, 2009 11:36 am
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| Do you think parents should spank their children?
Yes. I definitely think parents should spank their children, however, there is a line between spanking and beating your child. Beating your child is never exceptable
Would/do you spank your children?
I do not have children but when I do, they will be spanked.
Do you believe that spanking causes repercussions such as character or social development?
I think beating your child most certainly does. Spanking does not.
Were you spanked as a child?
Yes - it never really hurt and I don't think I was spanked after the age of 7-8
Where exactly is the line between spanking and outright abuse? (If you believe there is one.)
I think the line between spanking and abuse would be: beating your child with a belt, board, swith, anything other than your hand. I also consider abuse to be excessive by leaving marks, scrapes, bleeding, brusing, etc.. I understand when you get spanked with a hand it will leave red hand marks but they clear up within minutes. It is not excessive
Anything else relating to this topic.
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Raz
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Posted: Tue Jan 13, 2009 4:43 pm
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| Hmm, That's a good point shroudedgirl. I fully agree with you on no tools or marks.
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Urboros
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Posted: Wed Jan 14, 2009 8:34 pm
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| I think physical determent is good for a child's development, plus I've sat kids who were and they were right brats.
I would spank my children when they deserved it.
Excessive spanking could cause repercussions.
I was spanked as a child, and I don't have any emotional deficencies. I don't steal or lie or grab attention like a maniac.
excessive spanking like 2 a day or 4 times a week, maybe get a nanny.
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Haley
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Posted: Thu Jan 29, 2009 7:36 pm
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| Spanking is disciplining through pain and fear- which doesnt bring authority, more as hatred and disobedience tot he child.
Also, I was a spanked child indeed, but with a twist- my father loved using leather belts. This did take a toll on my social development, because I felt cornered, watched, and fearful. What if I did something wrong and didnt know it? Was I going to get hit? Do I ask? Will that make him angry? Will he hit me? Will he hit me? Thats never something a child should wonder and fear about in a father. Or a mother, for that matter.
Spanking.. just sint the way to go...
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HenceForth
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Posted: Fri Jan 30, 2009 8:33 pm
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Do you think parents should spank their children?
yes. Sometimes you really need to get a message across and a swift slap on the behind is the way to do it.
Would/do you spank your children?
yes, i have no problems against it
Do you believe that spanking causes repercussions such as character or social development?
It depends, if it happens occasionally in order to deter certain 'bad' behaviours no, but if a child is spanked constsntly then there will probably be later problems
Were you spanked as a child?
only once, I was about to run acoss the road into oncoming traffic, my mother spanked me once and i never did it again
Where exactly is the line between spanking and outright abuse? (If you believe there is one.)
there is this magical thing called a criminal code that spells out the difference between what is allowed when spanking and what qualifies for abuse. As a criminal justice major I live by it
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OMG MY FACE
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Posted: Sun Feb 15, 2009 11:02 pm
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There’s a huge controversy with spanking and I’d like to get everyone’s views on it.
Do you think parents should spank their children?
Would/do you spank your children?
Do you believe that spanking causes repercussions such as character or social development?
Were you spanked as a child?
Where exactly is the line between spanking and outright abuse? (If you believe there is one.)
Anything else relating to this topic. |
The controversy over spanking is created by the government to distract you from the poor job it's doing!!!!
Okay, that's [most likely] not true. Or isn't it?
Anyway, on point, spanking does seem to be a thing from generations past. It seems that parents today are scared to lay hands on their children, and perhaps deservedly so. Kids are smart, they get to a point where they know how they can get you in trouble for things. I used to work for a school and some of the older children (4-6th graders) knew what the rules for after school counselors were and knew that if two or three of them corroborated a story (I'm sure they didn't use such a big word in their heads) that they could get a counselor in trouble, regardless of how untrue such stories may have been.
On the other hand, 'disorders' like AD[H]D seem to be a thing from generations current/future. It may be a topic often touched upon in things like stand up comedy or movies, but in all jest there lays at least some nugget of truth. Kids were either good kids or bad kids, and if your kid screwed off in school, you spanked them, and somehow magically they wouldn't repeat the behavior.
Now this is a touchy subject for me, because I was definitely 'more-than' spanked as a child... but I'm over it. Also because my significant other will very likely read this post at some point, and as the most-likely future bearer of my children, she'll be interested in what I have to say.
Would I spank my children? I could never say for certain because I'm not in that situation right now, but I would have to say that Yes, I would. But it has to be done, as any other action, with wisdom behind it. You can't spank your kid for spilling his soda on the couch. And you can't spank a child when they're too young to understand that it's a punishment, or it loses it's effectiveness and desensitizes the child to that form of discipline in the future.
To sum up how I feel...
If your son wants a cookie, and cries and stamps his feet and pounds his fists on the counter, or further, perhaps against your leg, and is screaming at the top of his lungs (c'mon folks, you all know the type of hysterical fit I'm describing- we've all seen it) for that darn cookie... if you finally give in and give him that cookie, what's going to happen the next time he wants a cookie and you tell him no? On the other hand, if you give him a swat on his bottom *AND* send him to his room to think about his behavior... do you think he'll throw that kind of fit again? Not just over cookies, but a soda, ice cream, or anything else?
I think not.
It's about responsibility and intent. Things aren't as black and white as you either beat your children or you don't. It's more to the tune of you're either a responsible parent, or you're not.
I think that answers everything.
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Vixie
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Posted: Fri Feb 20, 2009 6:00 pm
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| parents should be allowed to spank their kids.. because A. its THEIR kids and B. how will there kids learn if they don't get punished for doing something bad..
in the words of bing cosby: beat 'em with a sack of oranges it won't leave a mark!!
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Mungo Boo
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Posted: Sat Feb 21, 2009 4:35 pm
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| I guess it kind of depends on what the kid did and if they did it more then once. I think that spankings reminds a child not to do something because they remember the pain of the spanking and they know not to do it.
I just don't think parents should spank really hard though either... if their skin turns red, then that is too hard.
It's really up to the parents though to choose punishment. Because I dont' think forcing a kid to taste soap is all the great either. Isn't that bad for you?
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Mella
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Posted: Sat Feb 21, 2009 7:11 pm
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| No, I do not think that parents should spank their children. When an adult does something wrong, I don't see them getting hit or spanked. Well, I guess it all depends on how badly the child acted I suppose. No, I would never spank my children. I was spanked and hit a lot as a child, seeing that my dad gets angry very easily, and I don't think i'd be able to spank them, knowing they would cry. >.< If a child was to be spanked a lot, I could see that that could cause problems in the future for that child. If you are forced to spank a child because of their misbehavior, then I think you are at fault, because you didn't bring up the child very well.
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Kitty
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Posted: Tue Mar 10, 2009 1:08 pm
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I am 100% against spanking. Most adults don't know their own strength and ultimately can hurt the child. And spanking doesn't explain to them what they did wrong. It just makes them fear the adult who spanked them. It is in no way a good thing.
My babysitter used to spank me very roughly and left hand prints on my bottom. She would spank me because I wouldn't stop crying, but I missed my mother. She was working and couldn't take me with her.
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TheRipper
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Posted: Tue Mar 10, 2009 4:23 pm
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| i don't see anything wrong with parents spanking their kids, because if they don't then the children won't know that they did something wrong(yelling at them isn't coming to do anything). by not punishing them properly your allowing your children to think that it was ok for them to do something wrong and they'll keep doing it, this is why there are so many parents who can't control their children!
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lunexor
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Posted: Sat Mar 28, 2009 12:12 pm
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| Its not fair that wife beating is no longer acceptable, but in about twenty three states, it is legal for school teachers and officials to spank and paddle girls, a form of corporal punishment that advocates say leads to violence in adult lives. I'm not saying I disagree with spanking, but it can lead to some serious consequences.
Self esteem loss per example, not to mention physical side effects.
Future anger problems.
Spanking is alright, if limited. But excessive spanking is too much.
It borderes on Child Abuse.
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