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[Freshie]

Its always when I'm not looking for anyone. D:
I'm just too" awesome" and "adorable" and "geeky". >n<
My female body is too "awesome" and "perfect". :o
Someone wants to be like friends with benefits with me..and I dunno if I should wake my inner sex goddess or not. ;n;
But the other guys, they're just..creepy and not cute. ;n;

[KaceyCat]

*forever alone* Partially by choice...Partially...In my 17 years, two guys have asked me out. Both times, I think I might have accidentally shot them down really hard. The first time was in middle school, and I'd been reading on the bus at the time, and my self-esteem was...Not so awesome, shall we say, and the guy just sat down next to me. I barely knew him other than his name, and I was reading at the time. Nobody bothers me when I'm reading. The second time was freshman year in high school, also on the bus, I'd had a bad day, was reading (once again), still didn't have much self-esteem, and I didn't even know the guy's name, just that he was a friend of my neighbor. Honestly, both times, I thought the guys were just joking or dared by their friends or something. And to this day, I don't know if they were serious or not.

I've never dated, never kissed anyone, nothing. My friend keeps trying to get me to date someone, since she thinks I should at least have had 1 boy/girl -friend by the end of high school, and it's my senior year. I'm the one who everyone goes to for advice though, and I deal with enough of everyone else's drama, I don't want to add my own drama to the mix. Besides, I don't want a relationship unless it's serious, not some fling that'll only last a few months, if that. And there's nobody I'm interested it. Well, no, that's kind of a lie...I kinda possibly maybe like my best friend, who moved halfway across the state a few years ago, but we still talk... >.> We don't get to see each other in person, though.

Wow, that post got more serious than I thought it would.

[Mock]

I'm like you, Cat; I've never been in any kind of relationship, and when I do, I want it to be serious. Unfortunately, I seem to have a habit of forming crushes on straight guys; I'm currently on my third :/ No-one's ever asked me out or anything, because until recently I was a skinny, pimply, or brace-faced teen. However, since a three-month-long scare with pneumonia, I've been eating like a regular human should, and I've been working out since November 2012. Recently a female friend of a friend expressed disappointment in my orientation, so I think I'm on the right track. I'm in no hurry to get a boyfriend, though.

[Freshie]

I'm 24.
I had crushes in high school but never cared if I dated or not, I focused on my studies and did well in school. I didn't even kiss till I got my first guy and that was after school, and even then, I was 19.

Waiting to date is a-ok! :D

I personally don't want a long list of partners. x_x I've been pretty non-dating, non-sexual by choice cause I've had some regrets in the past. Been pretty much demisexual etc. Except now when I'm not sure what I want. xD
Well I kinda know what I want, I just dunno how much I want of it. <w<

I..I somehow get stuck with liking gay guys at times so. Yeeah.

[Strix Varia]

Have any of the female people here ever successfully asked a guy out? Or is it still generally accepted that the guy should do the asking?

[Freshie]

Out of the 4 boyfriends I've had, all asked me out. I can't remember if I ever even tried to ask out any of my crushes. xD

[Catghost]

[Butterscotch Faerie Tales]

Aw man all these dating problems are really sad. I just want to give you all hugs! I've never dated anyone so I don't know what it's like, but it seems kinda crummy for most. I prefer to actually be single and would like to stay celibate for a majority of my life.

My orientation can be considered a bit wonky to others. I am asexual and I don't have any physical attractions to anyone. A lot of people don't understand, but it pretty much means I only like someone for their brains and personality, not for their looks.

Also if I were to be in a relationship it would probably be hard because not only does sex seem unappealing, but so does kissing and other intimate things. I don't even know how a relationship would work with someone who is sexually active which is mostly why I wouldn't want to be in one. (Though a lot of it is the fact that no one finds me physically attractive and I have low self esteem.)

If I ever felt confident in myself, and I finally felt open to being in a relationship, I would most likely be the one to ask out whomever I like. For now I rather like to simply have my friends to keep my company. <3

[Catghost]

I have several asexual friends, so I'm familiar to what you mean.

As for the relationship and sex thing, it might not be as hard as you think. I don't care to enter into a relationship for sex, nor do I want to, and is one of the reasons I have avoided them. There are plenty of people who are understanding of this, and it takes time to find them, but when you do and they really do care about you, then they will be willing to stay by your side regardless. Anyone else isn't worth the time, especially if they try to push you.

Anyway, I hope you do find confidence in yourself. You deserve whatever you want, relationship or not. I like the maturity you've taken in regards to this subject.

[Freshie]

I don't want to date or have sex either. Though mines by choice.

Except..sometimes..things happen. <<''

[Butterscotch Faerie Tales]

That actually makes me really glad! So far I haven't met anyone else who is asexual in real life. Not a lot of people seem to know what it means. Even the majority on the internet doesn't seem to know what it is either.

True, I know that a relationship shouldn't have to be revolved around sex. The thing is, I would feel guilty being in a relationship with someone I really care about and I was unable to satisfy their needs. Even if they are okay with the fact, I would still feel bad. Not to mention being intimate actually creates a chemical bond and can help with growing closer to your partner. So it's almost like disregarding a chance to become even closer.

Thank you! I've taken in every experience my friends and family has had to help me keep a clear head and be open minded. Just because I would prefer to stay single forever doesn't mean I will though. After all, I'm not a fortune teller and I can't see into the future. When the time is right I'll probably find myself with someone.

Freshie, I think it's fine to do some things if the opportunity arises and you're willing to take it. There's nothing bad about doing what you want.

[Freshie]

All I wanted was to be alone and a crazy cat woman. D:
But nuuu, I gotta be a sexy mama and guys think I'm perfect. <<;;
Though recently I felt more straight then bisexual.

[Strix Varia]

Heh. you know Freshie, you aren't going to get a lot of sympathy for being to sexy for your own good. But if you want to be a crazy cat woman, at least do it right. It takes a lot of work so start right now getting all the licenses and training you need to own large animals. Then you can collect some cougars, lynxes, jaguars, and other large cats.

Personally I would need a relationship that could be fulfilling on Mental, Physical, and Emotional levels. I think you need all three for a solid forever kind of relationship. If you just want companionship, get a pet. Pets are very good and highly therapeutic for the roll they fulfill. If you aren't currently looking for a relationship, that is fine also. But don't get into a marriage level relationship just because they are attractive or just because they seem to 'understand you'. Understanding isn't enough. Looks aren't enough.

[Butterscotch Faerie Tales]

I wish I could be that kind of crazy lady! I'v always wanted to become a surrogate mother to any large cat. Or any animal in general actually.

That makes a lot of sense. I haven't thought of it like that, but I have thought as I just want someone who is good for me.

I have a ton of pets already. I have 2 cats, 3 dogs, and 4 chickens. I love them all a lot. <3 Though I would really like if I could have some type of reptile though, like a little gecko or turtle.

[I walk with Time]