Just say "sex"!

[Lux-Vertas]

Sadly Sex has become more complex than ever...

I had acces to various books of growing up, by Useborne (Oddly! 0.o), so I was OK there, but sadly it is Irritable...

Plus it's not one thing to say in one speech...

I mean you can;t just talk about the act, there is "That time of the month" and other stuff!

[ADaysGrace]

Haha, my mom is the complete opposite. She wants me to learn everything possible; safety and anatomy.

But she'd rather I didn't use the... well... "unliked" terms when it came to sexual things, she'd rather me say the proper term.

[fluffyclouds]

My parents just left it to society to teach us through rumour and friends and media. It's not really considered extremely taboo on my dad's side since both his parents were in hospitals, and my grandmother worked in an AIDs clinic so there's usually some colourful tales every time I go visit them, not to mention all the things that people 'fell on' and got stuck (where is up to your imagination) that my grandad had to sort out. Also, my parents are pretty liberal, so they do realise that I probably cuss quite a lot in real life, although I don't drink out of choice (not for any religious reasons, more because I don't like the taste of alcohol and can enjoy a party sober, although I still never know why I wake up in my undies in the morning or why I'm sleeping on the table). They just don't allow it at home since my 2-and-a-half year old sister is akin to a parrot. I figure that when or if I decide to have kids, I'll go for the lazy option like my parents did, without any taboos if they really need to ask me something. 'Sides, surely it's an essential part of growing up to hear all the playground rumours and try to figure out which are actually the truth?

[Lunar]

My mum has this annoying habit of telling me "it's none of my business" whenever I ask something she's too pissy to answer.
E.g. When she lost her virginity, how much she earns per month (so I could get an idea of rent costs etc.) and whether or not she's ever had a lesbian experience.
She goes with the idea "I dont have to tell you anything."
Well its like.. Jesus, I'm your daughter, not a strange old man in a pub.

I talk about sex all the time with my mates, its only passed in mentioning with my brother a few times, and he acted like I was mad when I told him I lost my viriginity, all like "why did you need to tell me?"
So mum has rubbed off on him.

I took a risk in December and showed my mum some lingerie I'd bought to wear for my boyfriend (back then.. grr.) a proper basque and hold-ups etc, and she was like "lovely. What else do you want me to say? This isnt the kind of thing I should be talking about with my daughter." So I said "It is when I'm 18. Mum."
My head was screaming "Actually, it's EXACTLY the thing you should be talking about but you. Are. Gay." not in the good way either.

[ecco]

I consider myself lucky. my dad keeps to himself and my mum is very open about sex. hell, she came into my room once, noticing the clothes strewn about the floor and the mortified expression on my boyfriends face as we both were hidden under the covers, just sits on the end of my bed and goes, "so, what do you guys want for tea?" XD

she can be TOO open sometimes, but i know that i can go to her if there is a problem, and more importantly that shes not going to freak out on me if she knows ive been shagging someone XD

[Overlord Branny]

Its a shame its such a taboo for most American families...and I guess..everywhere honestly..

My parents never seemed to mind if we talked about it but they always feared that my sister and I would..
Which was rightly feared since my sister had a child at 16 and I being the gay son...well...anyways.. xD;

Nowadays with myself being 22 and my sister almost 21 we talk about it randomly with our parents now. It's kinda funny cause nothing seems to bother my dad, even on the subject of gay sex but my mom will light up and demand the conversation end now!

Always funny!

[SilverStar2]

My parents when I got to the age they thought I would check out girls... they didn't know I was checking out guys as well, always taught me and told me. That this a scared act between you and your love one that you will spend the rest of your life with to create another living begin out of love.

Can you tell what i been brough up with? I have respect that aspect of saving your self for your one true love and getting married... if I ever do. [makes a cute innocent face]. So I can say I'm a virgin, [rolls eyes] I can see people freaking out in their chairs or comfy spot just reading that.

Now a days pre teens and teens can't stop doing it or not do it at all. Ugg it trouble some too. I got a friend at work name Drake but he wants to be call Drick, go figure I have no idea what goes on in his mind. And some one said you shouldn't be called that it would make people think of a boy's private area that shouldn't be around a child friendly everiment... pffffttt that person still leaves teeth under their pillows if I'm going to believe that bunch of BS. I hear kids like under 10 swearing and god forbid talk about when their [couchs] private area are going to become you get the picture here.

I think we need an age limit on this stuff and make it okay to talk about at a certain age. I don't need to be in the middle of the bathroom and hear a boy scream my pee pee not big enough for girls for them to like me. [shudders] Why me.. sometimes I wish I was born a girl then again i like who I'm and sometimes I question parents.

Sometime I wonder what the parents are teaching their children and saying it okay to talk about that subject at home but not out in PUBLIC!!! I don't need to hear about who bang who, and where they did it while I'm making burgers and fries for people. [makes a sick face]

Sorry I had to get that off my chest and my tangent out of my system. I'm going to sip my soda and be happy.

[Freshie]

One of the biggest things I love discussing is sexuality. So let me know if anyone wants to talk about it. ^^;;

I dunno where to jump in with everyone elses posts now though. xD
My mother also talks way too much about sex too. TMI mom! ;-;
But sex really isn't that big of a deal, for the virgins I must say. Like it just could me, but its nothing to get your knickers in a twist about. Or at least thats just me. ^^ I was way more nervous about doing anything, rather then me excited for it. I had no desire to have sex while I was younger. Horny, yes. But didn't let it bother me. Even now, its not like I'd be a crazy nympho. :P
I wouldn't change one thing about how my sex life has been.
However, at the end of the month, I won't be getting laid for a while. xP

[dreamer676]

I don't really know where to start with this tbh. I mean it's very interesting to see other people's experiences, with this. I mean personally I have absoloutely no issues talking about sex unless it starts going into personal experience that makes me feel a bit uncomfortable because I consider sex to be something intimate and private that you share with your partner. It's kind of hard to explain I mean I don't really mind the whole I lost my virginity at such a such an age that's not weird to me it's when it starts getting into intricate details I think.

But yeah the whole taboo stigma that reolves around sex nowadays actually annoys the hell out of me. I mean round by me if you haven't lost your virginity by the time your 14 then your weird and it was never like that when I was that old (only 4 years ago I might just add ) Because it's really embarressing to teachers and whatnot at the secondary school by me the kids arn't being taught sex education and it's stupid because the kids then feel to take it upon themselves to have sex to learn about it. It sort of makes me sick because all these poor children are just recking their bodies and can catch whatever and not even know. And if they do notice any changes they're too embarressed to say anything or go to a doctor. I don't know lots of people namely my mum blame the media and whatnot but I'm a bit like well yes but really the parents should be controlling their children's exposure to these kind of things if they are that worried about it.

I'm sorry I have kind of brought the convosation into negativity.

but yeah sometimes I feel like a bit of a freak because I have only had one partner, well ever really lol, and we lost our virginity together. Whereas others my age have had several or they sleep with a new person every friday after getting drunk at the pub. and well like I said my sister has had no sex ed and she's had three different partners~ aged 14 D:

[Freshie]

Dreamer;
Don't worry, I'm only 20 and only have had one partner, losing my virginity at 19 with him. Current boyfriend for over a year now. ^^;;

[ecco]

having more partners doesnt make anybody any happier. might work for bragging rights socially, but its all a facade as far as i can tell.

[Freshie]

Its either bragging rights, or people calling you a slut. :/

[dreamer676]

lol well thank you for saying so

Yeah I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years now so it doesn't bother me as such, because I'm happy with who I'm with at the moment but it does make me curious when people have had a lot of partners, or even a few. I guess it's just because I'm so monogamous

[jo18]

i think it is a good idea for parents to at least talk to there kids about ex when they are the right age. but i don't think kids should know anything about it until they hit that right age. and with different kids it will probably be a different age that you need to discuss it with them. drugs on the other hand i guess you need to talk to them about it when it seems necessary i talk to them about what drugs can do to them. either way depending on t he age i should hope kids don't know anything about either one of those 2 subjects

[VampMiyu]

you'd think they'd worry more about the drug issues ._. not that sex is not important.Parents HAVE to talk to their kids about sex,but just explaining everything and helping them understand things,not making it taboo! O.o
Everyone knows when you make something illegal,taboo,"bad", kids will just want to do it more

I remember when I when I was maybe 15 my mom took a condom and showed me how to put it (on a banana...) and we also had a book with ilustrations about your anatomie,and things kids need to know when they grow up, like the first periods of a girl or accidental eyaculation for boys (yes boys first do that it usualy isn't on purpose) I think the book was called "let's talk about sex"