Super strict parents!

[Snowkoyuki]

I have very strict parents who wish for me to go to a good university and everything. My dad tells me that I am stupid and stuff but my average score in school are at 97 or so percent. I don't think that I am that stupid. Do my parents see early sign of me slacking off or something? Should I be overly concerned?

[Nemui]

i think your dad should realize calling you stupid isn't going
to encourage you to work any harder.

I don't understand why some parents feel its necessary to
degrade their children when it comes to school but its so not worth it.

And if your average is 97, then that's defiantly not stupid at that point it seems like he is just being picky. If you don't think your stupid then your not stupid.
Your doing your best and that's what counts if your parents cant see that then oh well to them.All they are going to do is push their child away.

If i were you i wouldn't be concerned about it.I doubt it has anything to do with them thinking your slacking, they are just trying to push you the wrong way.
Seriously though you have a good average your doing fine so don't get concerned about it.
As long as you your self don't think you slacking or know you not slacking
then you shouldn't worry about it.

[RavenCpu]

Parents have a way of over thinking things. By the way you say your dad acts, I imagine he has hopes of you going to a prestigious university and working in a career that he can be proud of. Unfortunately, it's likely that your dad is simply trying to live his dreams through you. A lot of people grow up expecting to rule the world and then realizing they can't even compete in the real world. So, instead of dusting themselves off, learning from their mistakes, and trying again... they have kids. And now it's up to the kids to succeed where they failed. That's just something you'll have to deal with; your dad won't change so don't be mad at him for being confused as to the right way to encourage you to succeed.

Also, don't place too much significant on grades. Yes, it's great that you're scoring high in your courses and you should be very proud that you're doing so well, but your grades are not a direct reflection of your intelligence; rather, they are a reflection of your drive to succeed. Do the best you can; don't let the grades influence you one way or another. If you have the drive to succeed, you will. All you have to do is make it to college then spread your wings and fly ^^

[lunexor]

Parents worry, its what they do.
It sounds like he is a little excessive in his actions, maybe you need to talk it out? And if you are really desperate, start getting lower grades. And if he asks why, tell him your being pressured too much by him and YOU are the only one that can bring the grades up, so he had better stop being so strict.

In the end, its your life. Parents do get a say, but its YOUR choices.

[Transcendence]

I think parents sometimes want their children to succeed and do better or as well as they did if they did well. I think its hard for them to understand sometimes that kids must be kids and do what they do. They cant make you be perfect, they should be happy that you are as good as you are. Tell them that some teens are horrible and that you are lucky to have such a good student.

[Jandi]

Parent's are usually like that, but saying that you're stupid isn't the way to go. Not a good way of encouraging you, that's for sure.

With the grades you have, i'm sure you'll do great in life..
Parents are just concerned, that's all :P

[Chu]

Parents tend to merely be overprotective.

Sadly enough, that's probably one of the root problems with our society, but I'll not go into that. :/

They want you to do well; that's really all there is to it. :]

[Vixie]

my parents are the complete oposite to "strick" they are laid back parents(not lazy or non-hard working but they never set curfews or gave us chores or things like that). but going to certain friends houses who had strick parents was always weird for me.

[Chere and Rose]

I'd say shove the average in his face (don't)
Tell him and show him your average. And ask if he wants you to try harder with that. And also how that you are already working hard.

Calm talking is the key.

But yeah. My dad is sometimes like that.

[Fallain]

He wants what's best for you but you need to find a safe way to make him take a step back out of your life before he ends up mentally damaging you.

Sadly, alot of parents don't even realize the pressure that they put on their kids until it's too late. There's nothing wrong with being average.

[Iregyura]

No, I think it might be his way of making you study harder and stuff, and not to slack off later on. Don't get too worried about it. 97 is really good already, and as long as you maintain it and have a good record, I'm pretty sure you're going to go to a good college/university (whatever, I don't know which one), and probably a scholarship at that. My average is a 96/97/98, but I don't sweat about it. Not that much anyways.

[Connan]

Well, parents do things what they think is good for their kids.
but I believe that parents should let their children decide their own future, and not wanting to create a future for them.

my parents wanted me to become a police officer, just because it is a steady job. But I want to become a writer/artist o.o And I belive in my own future.

Every person only does that which that person is cabable of.

If you get c's on school and you did your best for it? ... no problem, because you have to do what you CAN do.

If you only get A+ 's your on the wrong school... aparently it is to easy and you can't learn anything new. there is nothing wrong with making mistakes in your life. And there is so much more than just school...

[Jazzeroki]

I'll talk a bit from the parents point of view since I recently became one myself.
Parenting is a very stressful occupation at least it is for good parents. You're always worring about supporting the family, what your children are doing ect... My two kids are only babies now and that's a real handful. I live in fear of when they are going to be older and start trying to do things their way. I know they'll want to shelter you from all of the hardships they faced. That's what love makes you do.
Unfortunatly most parents really don't know what they are doing. They are just as new to parenting as kids are to growing up. About the only time you are going to have things sorted out in life is when they are lowering to that 6 feet under resting spot. But I will say based on what you said it does sound like your dad isn't treating you like he sould. Your mother could also be too sheltering. But in that end I think I would have to hear their sides of the story before I could really say what is going on. But I do hope they have the best of intentions for you.

[Chu]

One thing about parents of more than one child is a situation relating to my mom's: They raised the first kid a certain way which worked for that kid, but after they had another with a different personality they tried to keep those methods and it backfired.

For example, the first born is a really quiet child that never got into trouble, so the parent didn't really need to learn how to discipline them. However, the second one comes along and is a problem child merely because of their personality, and the parent is left with no idea how to raise them because all they know is the loose parenting from the previous child. It actually happens quite a bit and that's why some kids just get worse and worse as they grow up. The same can apply to parents that had a problem child as their first and an easy one as their second, but was accustomed to the strict parenting from the first and drove the second to destructive behavior because of it.

[la Acuatico]

No, I don't think that you should be overly concerned. I mean, yes, maybe you're parents are having high expectations. Just try to live up to it. Also, other times maybe your Dad or whoever has problems saying, "Don't let your grades drop," because everything they say turns into something harsh. Some people are like that. Don't be overly concerned, that's going to drop your grades even more. Stay cool, be a good student, and get into a good university! Don't become overly obsessed with grades though. No one will like you then.