Oh goodness! Teenage “love”

[Chu]

n_n Sorry I haven't been on lately.

Okay, addressing the topic of the word "love" being overly-used: I don't believe that. Words are words; nothing more. Why should the word "love" be so sacred that you can only use it when talking about/to people you truly care about? I don't see such rules for other words like "sacred" and "beautiful" which are equally poetic.

High school romances are pretty stupid. Yes, I'm a high school student and I have a boyfriend but I won't deny that I've been pretty dumb in our relationship. Nothing as far as intimacy goes, but I've been overly emotional and said things I shouldn't have and so on and so forth. I think, however, that because Sam deals with my mistakes, and I deal with his, our relationship is a lot stronger than most that I see. Whenever we're angry with each other, we don't fume, vent to our friends, and then think everything is okay. We throw out the middle man and straighten things out then and there because keeping that stuff to yourself hurts more than anything. Even if we are teenagers and still do those stupid teenage things, I think we handle ourselves in very mature ways.

Ooh, premarital sex. Well, I'm a virgin but Sam isn't, so obviously some one is not getting something he wants after over a year. (Ten months of dating, then those months where he was single/didn't have sex.) Despite my "innocence" I believe that people should have sex before their married. After all, if you can't enjoy your sex life with your partner, that would certainly cause problems. I also don't see sex as a big issue. I hate how girls try to save their first time for something special, because really, we all do it, even animals do. Why are you so special?

And before anyone asks, I just haven't had it because, well, I don't want to yet. o-0 There's also the time, privacy and such. (Like how he and I were alone yesterday until eight but I was on my period so we just spent time together and took a nap. XD But you know what? That's the most fun we've had together in a while.) Today we're hanging out again and enjoying an annual fireworks show. So, no, you don't need sex to be happy in a relationship but it certainly makes it very fun. I'm the type of person that gets easily bored, so poor Sam has to figure out new ways to excite me.

Does love blind people? Yes, I believe so. Maybe it doesn't particularly blind them but at the least it hinders your vision. XD


@Aaya: Oh wow, that it really terrible. I don't know what I'd do in that situation; I get way too attached to people that I love.

[elliryanna55]

I think teens can be in love-IF theyve been in the relationship long enough......I have friends who think they love someone but they really dont I try to explain to them that they really cant love someone after like a week

[Athilea Majiri]

When I was in high school I actually dated a guy for four years. It wasn't totally in high school. We didn't start dating until I was a sophomore. Now, that being said we actually met when I was in 8th grade and talked for a while, though we hadn't started dating at that time.

He was a nice enough guy when we first got together. He introduced me to role playing ((the table top kind)), and so much else that I don't think I would have experianced other wise. I never had a lot of boyfriends, nor was I really the type of girl that guys took an interest in. I was to weired for most of them.

Alright, so as our relationship went on he started to change. I was engaged to him, I thought we were going to marry. He started to become verbally abusive first though. Even some of the people we hung out with tried to talk to his sister about it. She, of course, would side with him. Later, when I tried to break up with him, he grabbed me by my neck. I ended up having to wait until I was at home with my parents and broke up with him over the phone.

So, in short. I don't really believe in high school, teenage love. All of the relationships that I have witnessed, even the long lasting ones, never really lasted long into adult hood. I have a friend that married his high school sweet heart. She more or less went crazy and they got a divorce. So I'm pretty cynical about that topic myself.

[Tempest Maximum Aleta]

Gah. -.- I'm thirteen and I have a friend who is 'in love' with a different guy every week. It irritates me to no end. And then on facebook, my friends always say 'I LOVE HIM SO MUCH!' no you don't! You're 12-14! -.-

[ecco]

Chu, once again, i am in almost total agreement with you. Yes, teenagers can fall in love. No, most of them dont know what "love" actually is, though.

I'm 20 now, and so is my Sam, but we first met and started dating back when we were 16. we met at a mutual friends house and i was too scared to talk to him. i had hideous self-esteem issues back then, and he was so cute.. well, we all ended up going to a local park just to hang around. He got really dizzy on this roundabout-like thing and ended up lying on the floor. I have no idea what possessed me to do so, but for some reason i sat on him. He asked me to move, I just grinned at him and said no. Then, a pound coin fell out of his pocket, so i picked it up and put it in my bra. He asked for it back, i grinned again and said no.

So he spent the rest of the evening following me around til I would give him his money back. :3

unorthodox, but it worked!
A few days later, he asked me out.

We were together for 7 months, then towards the end he changed completely. went really quiet, and seemed depressed, but i couldnt get him to open up to me. and then, he broke up with me. I can honestly say i've never felt as wretched as i did that day.

Life went on, i dated a different guy for almost 2 years, he went and had a number of girlfriends that never lasted, and slept around quite a bit.

Then about 3 months ago... i bump into him out clubbing and we end up making out.
Then i went clubbing with him for his birthday soon after, and he admits to me that he made a mistake, said i'm the only person he's ever had true feelings for and i'm the only girl that could ever hurt him. so he wanted to know what I wanted. i told him i hadnt really thought about it... he asked me to think about it.

So i did. i knew pretty quickly I wanted to be back with him again, so within about a week i accepted his offer.

And he has finally admitted to me that he loves me. and i finally told him i always had felt that way about him. I spent the last 2 and a half years denying it... but he was always there at the back of my mind.

he is my knight in shining armour.
so yes... teenagers can fall in love. but love is something that runs deep. to me, it's instinctive. there was something about him the day we met, i just knew i had to get his attention. and the rest is history...

[Chu]

OLD THREAD IS OLD.

But it's kinda weird that it was revived because just today it dawned on me that all of the couples that everyone supported and were supposedly going to "last forever" are totally failing right now, and Sam and I are still going strong, haha. Maybe we're just exceptional.

[Tempest Maximum Aleta]

Aw, Ecco. 83 I'm glad things are working out now for y'all. ^^

That's good Chu! ^^


Ya know, right after I posted on this the first time, my friend started bugging me again about me and this guy at my school. She thinks we'd be the 'cutest couple ever.' And, now, I can't stop thinking about him because of her. And I've dreamed about him two nights in a row so far. Nothing big; he's just kinda there, but still. :\ I have to admit, I do kinda like him, but i dunno. XD
I had a revelation a few minutes ago, too. My initials upside down (just first and last) are his. XD My brain works in the wierdest ways.

[lexi luthor]

Hello! i know this topic is old and all.. but I want to put in my 10 cents.

SO My love story!! XD

The first person I ever dated in 8th grade was a kid named Paul. He was a charming young man, but I hardly knew him when I said yes to dating him. So it all went down hill from there. My parents turned out really liking his parents and pushed me onto Paul even more. 1 month into the relationship we went on a trip to Florida. Had a lot of fun I must say. But Paul just got worse and worse throughout the relationship. He got more violent. He told me I hurt him mentally and that he couldn't hurt me mentally like I hurt him so he would just hurt me physically. It started out with just wrestling me to the ground and bounding my hands behind my back, then moved on to slapping me hard across the face while he sat on my chest constricting my ability to breathe. I decided I had to break up with him. The first time I tried he went into his basement then came upstairs with a large gun and pointed it in my face then said, "So what were you saying about breaking up?" Then he pulled the trigger and shot a blank. I went home and broke up with him on the phone.

My second boyfriend in my freshman year was Nick. I don't know if he ever loved me or not but I believe that he used me. And I was too stupid to ever notice it. I was 'blind' with love that was so fake I can't believe myself for being so dumb. He got angery when I tried to hang out with anyone else. He planned out times when we would hook up and do things like make-out and stuff and If I cancelled he would be really pissed off. Alot of things that screamed, "HE'S USING YOU IDIOT!" I stayed with him anyway though, because I swore to myself i loved him and would never break up with him. He then broke up with me. I cried three days straight, and I regret ever even meeting him.

My current boyfriend, Brian, I met this year. I think we were destined to meet. I met him through Xbox. He played online with one of my best friends often and I would play with them. Slowly me and Brian became closer and closer, and when I got my Xbox taken away I called him and talked with him on the phone everyday. We decided to meet in person. We instantly felt an connection. We had alot in common. The 30th of October will be our 'Half a Year' anniversary. We have gotten a few arguements but we always seem to be able to talk things out and make it through the tough times together. We promised each other that we won't break up with each other unless one of us cheats. Is this a good idea? Because at one point this is the only thing that kept our relationship together... But now we are very happy together again now that we are past this time, what do you think?

[Tempest Maximum Aleta]

Lexi luthor -
@paul - Dang. O_O I hope you called the cops becuase I'm sure you have more control that me. XD (meaning I'd murder him if he pointed a gun a me)

@Nick - There are guys at my school like that. -.-

@Brian - Hope y'all are happy together. ^^


Sorry. Had to respond becuase of paul. What a flipping jerk! Well, worse than that, but I don't cuss. ^^'

[lexi luthor]

Yeeeaaahhh... I couldn't call the cops because in my parents eyes Paul was the ideal boyfriend, and he was an angel, NOTHING was wrong with Paul. To them. So yeah.

[Tempest Maximum Aleta]

I'm sorry about that. :\

[lexi luthor]

It's no problem really, he is completely in my past. Well, sorta.. Since he goes to school and stuff he can prove to be a bit of an asshole to me. It's cause I broke up with him. I hurt his pride or some crapo like that.

[Tempest Maximum Aleta]

XD You obviously don't have the mega anger issues I have. XD I mean, really, dang. What is wrong with me!? I get so mad so easily. Well, most things are greatly justified, but still. I do tend to overreact. XD

[lexi luthor]

I think I am worse now. But my anger comes out in different ways.. but my shrink tells me I have BAD anger issues.. *shrug*

[Tempest Maximum Aleta]

XD I probably need a shrink. e.o I just don't want one. They annoy me. I'd end up with worse issues.