Obsessed...

[Chu]

I'm sure we've all dealt with an obsessed and clingy person before, right?

Bah. I'm a magnent to them. I had a friend an extremely long time ago that basically stalked me. Eventually I got scared enough to tell my parents and he left me alone for a few years. Then my friend found him on myspace and we began talking again, and soon enough he told me about this depression thing he's going through and now another friend gave him my phone number.

Needless to say, I'm pissed. But I can't say anything to the guy because he's holding guilt for how I used to treat him over my head. (You see, I began hating him and ignored him completely. He even had a seizure right in front of me and I just walked away.)

This is going to be hell. Great.

Discuss anything relating to stalkers and obsessed people.

[Lunar]

My ex boyfriend kept emailing me weeks after we'd split up and agreed not-talking would be for the best.
Then he called me names when I didnt reply.
Oh.
And he lied his ass off to my college "friends" who all but one decided to turn their backs on me and be closer to him, even though he lives hours away. (y)
Men are idiots. Dont worry about it.

[Chu]

People in general are idiots if you ask me. I'm still seething over my friend giving him my phone number.

> w>;

If it gets bad enough I'll get Raz to play the typical role of jealous boyfriend and send him packing, haha.

It's sad that I might have to do that though, because he's not okay with the situation per se, but he knows better than to get jealous over that.

[glimpse]

I made friends with a guy in high school. We were in the same art class, and he was sitting alone so I invited him to sit at our table with some of my guy pals [they all gave me dirty looks for that]. He was...awkward. We had a noticeable age difference since he failed a couple of grades, but I tried not to hold it against him.

He started telling us things that none of us really wanted to know about. I tried not to mind. Honestly, half the stuff he said -I imagine- was to get a rise out of me, and I played along. We would laugh. But he would go on and on and get a bit weirder each time. It was uncomfortable.

He wasn't an easy person to talk to, especially since we had nothing in common. He started finding me between my classes and during our lunch period and asked for my phone number. He pestered until I gave it to him. Big mistake since he never stopped calling.

I told my friend, and whenever she saw him coming towards me, she'd help me get away or warn me. I love her for that.

I still feel bad though, since he wasn't a bad guy. But at least now that I've graduated, I won't see him again, right? >>

[Chu]

Ah, I've dealt with someone like that since middle school. He's an odd one but he has a good heart.

And apparently that good heart fell for just about any girl that was nice to him. D: He wrote me a poem and everything, but I turned him down as nicely as possible. We still talk every now and then. He's gotten A LOT better at following people around and such, even if he still is pretty weird.

Honestly I have a bit of a soft spot for him though because the way he acts reminds Raz of how he used to be, except Raz TRIED to freak people out. This guy is just naturally odd. I guess that makes me want to see him a little happy at least, but sheesh! D:

[glimpse]

LOL CHU YOU'RE SO MUCH NICER THAN I AM I have no soft spot for him at all. My heart is as cold as ice D::

But I think he's earned that a little bit, with his terrible, terrible temper. Still, I guess I'd like to see him happy too. But I think he already is, in his own bizarre way. (:

[Chu]

Haha, I really wish I weren't. DX

But the guy got his own real friends, and I think he's dating someone, so I really don't have to do anything.

Ooh, I wouldn't deal with that. I've dealt with plenty of men with explosive tempers in the past and I won't get involved in that again.

[Graymalkin]

So there is this guy, he was my last boyfriends best friend.
Well he developed into that when we moved here together.
This guy kind of formed a weird facination over me.
After my last by broke up with me and moved back home,
things only got worse. Now that he was a family friend,
you know he could come over whenever.
It was all fine and I could talk to him,
and when the step father got verbally abusive and loud.
Threatening to throw a table or whatever he would help me leave.
Although, it still slowly developed into a weird obsession.
It still goes on, and my ex just laughed and said that he warned me.
Well, shut up Syn I know you were right.

Anyways, he calls constantly even when I am at school.
Which pisses my biological father off because he works nights,
therefore he tries to get some sleep during the daytime.
This boy tells me things I did not need to know,
like when he got his penis pierced and such.

Here is a letter rant I posted about him :

[Chu]

Wow. He sounds like a... handfull. DX

I wouldn't know what else you could do. Some people just can't take a hint. Sadly...

[Pixie-la]

Ah... I'm clingy.
I've gotten loads better though.
In seventh grade, I made my first real friend in Texas, and I always followed her around, and such. It doesn't seem like she minded, but... Ah. I don't know. I've gotten better though! I'm still friends with her [even though I'm not allowed to. Her family hates me guts, literally. Her brother has spit on me before and her grandma blames me for everything that goes wrong. Says that I'm a lesbian devil worshipper. :/ But we are still friends at school, so that's cool.], but I've made my own friends too. Yay~
But, I still don't have a life. Hopefully, I can grow one. [Do you know if there are any Chia-Lifes?]

[Chu]

I'm okay with clingy people, but once the get obsessive and dependant, I need to back away. DX Then it's too late because I can't turn away a person in need.

Wow, that's terrible of them. o-0 I've never had a friend's family hate me before.

XD Chia-life. I could only imagine.

[Pixie-la]

Yeah. Apparently, her brother decided I was making her happy, so I must be a lesbian. And I sometimes wear black, so I must be a devil worshiper, but she wears more black than me and she's a little angel. Hell, her boyfriend is literally a devil worshiper, but he's perfect, ya know?
They... don't take care of her. She's their personal Cinderella+.
I dunno.
I sorta hate them too. She doesn't diserve how they treat her and such, and I tried to help her, but the cops didn't have any evidence, so nothing there.
But, since her brother got married, he's been nicer towards her and such, so hopefully he'll stay better... Ugh.

[Graymalkin]

[Chu]

@Pixie: Haha, now it's beginning to sound like my boyfriend.

He and I are getting an apartment together as soon as we graduate high school. We've decided that even if we break up, we'll need each other to live outside of the hell holes of our houses. Haha, at least for a little while. That's what happens when you both have the brains and common sense to get through life but no where near enough money, I guess.

He and I are really clingy with each other though. Most people look at our relationship and think it's nothing serious; that we just act like children and can't handle a real relationship. It's because we're lovey-dovey and cuddly with each other, so who could take that seriously, you know? But in reality, if we don't cling so much to each other, our environments drive us into depression. It's a way to protect ourselves, and not let that stuff get to us. Sadly nothing is simple, or as it seems with our relationship. ;p


@Graymalkin: OH wow. D: It sounds like he's just desperate to get someone to care about him. Be there for him if you want, but otherwise you should probably try to drop him. I've dealt like someone like that before and they were basically a "boy who cried suicide" every other month. Eventually I gave up.

[Graymalkin]

Chu - Yeah I know but it's hard.
Mainly because my siblings love him so much.
We are trying to get my sister who is just old enough to have facebook to un-add him.
She does not need to see
"Going home, bored as f**k, getting high,
anyone want to join me? Penis appointment tomorrow."
*shudders* I'll only be there for him as much as is tolerable.
Plus, he is a nice guy when he is not trying to be thirteen people.
That mainly drives me crazy, one day he is "Oh I am goth."
Next day he is gay, then the day after he is not.
He just needs, a proper role-model I think. Who knows.
*sigh* Thank you very much for your advice and support Chu.
~