Obsessed...

[Chu]

No problem. I've dealt with lots of people like that, and they really just need to grow up. ^^; Maybe one day he'll realize how foolish he is.

[Afanassii]

I have two friends who are this way. They're clingy and they always need to be around people. They tell me their depressed, but I have clinical depression as well and I really need my alone time.

Both of these guys have the "my life is so horrible!" outlook for one thing or another - one because of diabetes, the other because of not being able to go through gender reassignment surgery. (even though he also told me that he doesn't want to do it - at least not give up his penis so...)

I'm on two different types of antidepressants and I've got a job, school and whatnot to deal with so I can't always be around them and their needy attitudes. I swear, they want to be over at my house EVERY DAY. Trouble is, they absolutely HATE each other. I guess they need to be the center of attention too much to deal with another person who'd like themselves.

Its sad, too, because they were friends a while back until they decided to do something sexual. Its sort of a long story but one of them is in an "open" relationship the other is single. They showed an interest in each other and after they slept together, the single guy basically did something along the lines of "OH, I'm sorry. I guess I must not be bisexual after all. Oh - by the way, can I sleep with your girlfriend?"



Needless to say, that was a crap move to make and now I'm not even sure if I want to be friends with that guy at all. The trouble is that I'm generally too nice and I give everyone the benefit of the doubt. I don't want to give up on a friend unless I'm sure they're always going to be a jerk, but I'm about there with him because after all that, he said something along the lines of: "I'm sorry. I'm a jerk, I know that. But this is just who I am."

Sorry, I know I got a bit off topic there. But, yeah, clingy people can suck you dry. Those two are like psychic vampires. They come over and blabber about how horrible their lives are and they don't listen to much of anything that I say. They're both attention whores (can I say that word here?) Don't get me wrong, they both have some very good points, but sometimes the balance is way tipped in the wrong direction.

They bring out the worst in me, too, so I worry that they're bad for my own depression.

[Chu]

Oh god, they sound absolutely terrible. It sounds like they cause you more stress than you need or deserve. I would drop them. But that's just me being the independent and rude person I am.

I don't even pay attention to the "friends with benefits" crap. Not that people try that with me because they know I have a boyfriend, but in the sense that my friends get caught in that stuff pretty often. And then there are the completely innocent ones dealing with their own nuisances. >.>;

Ah, attention whores. I used to be friends with one; a girl who thinks she's absolutely the sexiest, smartest, funniest, kindest, most wonderful person in the world that can't possibly do anything wrong. XD I have to admit, it's amusing watching her fail. But yeah, I don't deal with attention whores because I don't care enough about my friends (harsh, I know) to give them much attention in the first place, let alone spend every waking hour with them. I don't know how people have dozens of "best friends". That would annoy me to no end.

This stuff is why I like the Internet. For some reason, it brings out the good more caring side of myself, and I genuinely like people on the Internet, rather than pretending to in real life. :3 That's probably pretty sad though because there's a lot of a bigger chance of being deceived, but I enjoy talking to people anyway.


No, I ranted too. D:< Darn it!

[DistortedBrwain]

Oh yeah that sounds familiar, I really hate clingy people too.

I once had a friend, my best friend, and I almost hung out with her every day. But some days I just wanted to be alone, everyone needs that right?

well so there was one night, we were in school together at that time and had hung out all afternoon together. So that evening I was lying on my bed in my room watching tv and here she just comes walking in.

I am like: what are you doing? she didnt even knock ya know. Pretty rude.

I said: Can't you knock, and I am sorry but did we agree to meet? I wanna be alone tonight.

She merely came to my house since she smoked and her parents didnt know and she could smoke at my house! I felt like I was being used, she didnt come to me for me, but to get a smoke. Well gtfo.

Of course I didn't say that, nontheless she was pissed.

Was like that when I was hanging out with other friends too. She knew that I was with them at their house, and I told her I couldnt meet her today cuz I was at Wendy's house for example, she just came over there!

How annoying. ><

So it killed our friendship with me telling her I didnt wanted to be with her constantly and that I also had other friends I wanted to hang out with.

She was so jealous, and she started to set up all my friends, that I had aquired, against me, so soon I lost them all. I was pissed at her for years, but now I have come to realise, none of them were truly friends, if they let that girl set them up against me so easily with her lies, so I am happy I lost them as they weren't worth to be my friends at all.

The fun part is, she didnt like one of the friends I had, and that friend didnt like her either. When she came over it was like, She isnt coming too right? and vice versa.

And now, soon after she set up everyone against me, they didn't hang with her anymore, except for that girl that didnt like her and that she didnt like. pretty sad you are hanging out with someone you don't like just because you have no one else anymore. XP

I was a bit lonely without friends, I always had tons so it was horrible in the end, then I grew to love being alone and I really got to know and develop myself and my own tastes. I became a true individual instead of liking what my friends liked, they liked pop music, but in that time I learned I loved rock music, and I started to play the guitar writing songs about all that had happened, and in time my songs got more cheerful again. ^^

Soon I met new people that I am still good friends with as of today. ^^

then there is my bf, he was so claiming, when I couldnt meet for one day, he was pissed, I felt bad for not meeting him but I still wanted my own life next to him.
It was so bad to the extend that I broke up with him. Well there were more reasons I am not gonna put down, but the main reason was him claiming me so much. Give me some space dude!

About 2 years later I met him again, and well I DID still have a weakness for him, we talked and kissed, and well we are living together for over one and a half year already, and are engaged, since he isnt claiming anymore, I made that more then clear that I don't want that.

Of course I cannot blame him for wanting to be with me as much as possible cuz he loves me, but I am different in that I still do wanna get out with my friends sometimes and stuff. And he respects that now.